My mother died last night
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My mother died last night
| Wed, 03-28-2007 - 7:44am |
She was just 62. I cant believe it. It was very sudden. I dont know how to go on. Today is going to be the worse day of my life. I dont know how to help my dad. I am numb and lost. I cant imagine not having her in my life. She was my mommy and she had so much more to teach me and her grandchildren. I am in such pain.

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((((((Sweetheart))))))
I am so so sorry for the loss of your sweet mom. Sweetie, what your feeling is very normal, but like capecod said you will function. It is hard, but you will. Be by your dad's side talk about your mom with him it could help both of you and give you both strength. Yes you will cry and cry, but tears will eventually make room for smiles and happy memories.
This a raw part of your loss and yes it is unbelieveable. I too lost my mom 2 years ago and now I am losing my dad (who is living with us after 2 strokes) to lung cancer. There is a folder about the loss of moms, when you have the chance please read it and contribute to it in your own time. Right now you have much more important things to deal with.
This is a wonderful group of ladies. They are caring and giving and loving. Please know we care and this is a safe soft place to vent all you want with no need to say your sorry.
Please take care sweetie, our prayers and thoughts are with you during this difficult time of your life.
Love ya
Gail
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(((((2pompom))))), I want to express my condolences to you on your mother's passing.
I am so sorry for your painful loss. I wish I could make that pain go away but I can't the only thing I can offer is as much support as I can give to you at this time. If you have the time and you find it beneficial can you share your Mom with us?? Tell us a bit about her and what exactly happened last night.........and always know that we are here to help when you need us.
Kiki
My Mama died almost 6 years ago. It wasn't sudden, the form of Alzheimers that she had took her away long before her death. The fact, though, that she was forever gone was overwhelming, though. I truly believe now that the numbness helps us get through those rituals of loss.
Please know that we are here for you!
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hugs and love for you and your family during this time.
I am so sorry for your loss.....losing a parent is the hardest; especially a mom.
My mom went into cardiac arrest the day AFTER thanksgiving last year....she survived but was unconscious for a week then we slowly took her off of everything which killed me.
I figured since i was already distraught and crying like a baby that i went thru pictures of her and remembered good times. Don't get me wrong, it did not take the pain away, but i was glad for the time I spent with her. She was only 73.
I don't know if you would believe this, but since her passing I noticed little things that happened that I know she had something to do with it...for instance, the day she died I had one rose bloom...a pink one no less which was her favroite color. Just try to pay attn if you notice...
Please post if you feel you need to talk to someone - this board helped me ALOT when my mom passed.....
Vicki
Vicki
I am so sorry for your loss. Your mother was so young. And a sudden death is such an overwhelming shock.
I lost my mother Dec 2005, she became ill and spent a couple weeks in the hospital before she died. I still miss her so. But as time has gone on I have been able to come to terms with it.
What brought me to this board was the unexpected death of my husband a few months ago -- the suddeness of his loss and the fact that he was only 58 was such a shock.
The loss of a mother leaves a great void, a sudden death leaves us in a state of trying to make sense of it, I guess for quite some time, along with the grief of losing a loved one.
I am so sorry. Prayers go out to you and your family -- take good care of each other.
Karen
I am so sorry your mom passed away. I only lost my mom, who was 63 2 months ago, and it was sudden too. Like the others said, you are feeling very normal feelings--I too was extremely numb in the beginning. It was the most horrible day of my life I think. It still feels unreal, and I think that's normal to some degree.
You could probably expect to cry just at certain things that remind you of her. But like the others, the pain will lessen (it has some now, but just a couple weeks ago I was bawling like crazy and missing her.)
Be with your dad, hug him. Don't be afraid to talk about her, look at pictures, think about the good times you had with her. A lot of people might be afraid to talk to you about your mom, but let them know what you want. That helps.
You might in the future may make a memory box of stuff that you remember of your mom. I did and that helped a lot. I even wrote down feelings I had about visiting the cemetery the first time after the funeral, and how I am feeling aobut her death.
Take things one day at a time. Things will get better. Hugs!
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