My mother died last night

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Registered: 01-17-2005
My mother died last night
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Wed, 03-28-2007 - 7:44am
She was just 62. I cant believe it. It was very sudden. I dont know how to go on. Today is going to be the worse day of my life. I dont know how to help my dad. I am numb and lost. I cant imagine not having her in my life. She was my mommy and she had so much more to teach me and her grandchildren. I am in such pain.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 03-30-2007 - 5:01am

First of all, I am very sorry for your loss. My mother died 4 years ago when I was 25 years old and she was only 57. She wasn't sick, but she collapsed after having an aneurysm. I know how tough it is right after. You're not even there. I was completely out of it when my mom passed away. She was my best friend.

The important thing is to go through the emotions the way you have to. See a psychiatrist if you need to. I've been seeing one for several years now and am on anti-depressives, which has definitely helped me. Both the meds and going to my weekly sessions.

Not knowing how you're gonna live without her in your life, I still go through that, but somehow, you get more of her inside you over time.

I don't know if anything that I'm writing is helping at all, but I just wanted you to know that you're not the only one out there who lost her mother so young.

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Registered: 11-03-2006
Fri, 03-30-2007 - 8:09am

So sorry for your loss. I too lost my mom. She was only 54. I went for almost a month of feeling numb, and not feeling anything. I believe that the numbness you are feeling is natures way helping you get through the very difficult time right after a loss.

Like many others have said, talk about your mom and look at pictures. I also found that in talking about my mom i was able to laugh when talking about certain memories, my mom loved to laugh and when i laughed i felt close to her.

The next few weeks will be tough but you will get though them.

Take Care.

carole

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Registered: 12-16-2006
Fri, 03-30-2007 - 10:40am
You are in my prayers. There are no words that will help you, but please take care of yourself. When you are in shock as you are right now, it is important that you take it one day at a time.
I lost my Mother in 1990, from Cancer while I was three months pregnant for my daughter. As I waited thru the pregnancy I could feel my Mom as I felt my baby move inside me. I know that may sound a little silly or crazy but I knew that my Mom was right there with me. I even felt her when I was in the delivery room, saying "good job Baby. Mom is so proud of you."
Take time to remember the special time's and just the every day things you may have done. Your Mom be gone, but she never really leaves you, I promise. ~ Lots of HUGS and PRAYERS to you......~ Deborah~
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Registered: 01-17-2005
Fri, 03-30-2007 - 5:18pm
Thank you everyone. I am doing better today but still have my times of crying. I am still in disbelief, I guess going through the denial/why phase. I am so sorry for everyone that experiences this pain. It is terrible. Thank you for sharing your stories and experiences. It truly has helped.
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Registered: 03-01-2004
Tue, 04-03-2007 - 9:08pm
Keep posting here. I just lost my mom on 1 February. This group has really helped me in just the last few days. It's amazing when you find a group and realize you are not alone what a difference it makes.
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Registered: 04-03-2007
Thu, 04-05-2007 - 7:35pm

I am so sorry for your loss. I'll will keep you and your family in my prayers.

God bless!

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