A stroke has taken my father...

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Registered: 10-29-2004
A stroke has taken my father...
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Thu, 03-29-2007 - 4:30pm
My father went to Emergency last week because he feeling ill and now he has has multiple strokes to the brain since he went in. He doesn't even recognize me. I am 28 years old, wife and mother of two and I feel soooooo alone. I almost don't want to go on, knowing he will never be the same and in my life. Everything I have accomplished in my life and career has been for him. I wanted to repay him someday soon for everything he gave up to take care of our family over the years. Now he has a deadly infection. I have no idea how to deal with this. And I am in misery knowing I didn't get to say good bye before his mental state was altered. I love him so much. This is horrible...
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Registered: 09-11-2004
Thu, 03-29-2007 - 7:55pm

(((((GENA0212))))))


Welcome to our board, we are truly a soft place to land. You are among people who understand.


My Mama died of Binswanger's disease, which is sorta like Alzheimer's. She left us long before her body did. Oddly enough, even the day she died she recognized my Dad. She also recognized the songs I sang to her that day, songs that she taught me so many years ago.


My sister, Geri, died of complications of lupus. She went to the ER, which sent her to a hospital 30 miles away. I didn't go. For the first time in 6 years, I didn't go with her. By the afternoon she was on


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Registered: 10-29-2004
Fri, 03-30-2007 - 8:04am
I feel so lost. I am so sorry to hear about your family.
I never expected this to hppen to my father, who has always been so strong and cared for people so much. His personality seems to be gone and I wonder if it is lost somewhere inside him. I have been with him almost everyday, but last night I stayed home and screamed and cried....I am trying to be strong but it is so hard because I feel like he is gone already. I don't think I will ever get over this.
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Registered: 12-16-2006
Fri, 03-30-2007 - 10:58am
(((((((HUGS and PRAYERS))))))

I am so sorry you have to go thru so much pain. If you need to scream and cry go right ahead, you have the right. Life does things to us that are not fair, and it is not fair that your father has to end this way. But please keep talking to him, just as if you knew he could hear you. Tell him all the things that you feel you need to say, He will hear you even thou you think he can't, "the heart hears all." If your father was there for all of you then I am sure he knows how much you care and love him. Keep talking and anything else that he enjoyed, like music or reading to him his favorite books or magazines. (((HE WILL HEAR YOU.... )))) Know in your heart that he loves you all.
~Deborah~
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Registered: 01-26-2004
Fri, 03-30-2007 - 9:36pm

(((((Gena))))), I am so sorry to learn of this tragedy that has struck your family.

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