Mother Dying - Can't Be With Her

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Mother Dying - Can't Be With Her
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Thu, 03-29-2007 - 9:30pm
My Grandmother/Mom who raised me since I was a infant is dying, can go at any moment and I can't go spend her last moments with her. Her actual kids who most have not seen her for 6 years, think I have stolen her money and don't want me there. I have never have had access to her money nor did I want it, my uncle and aunt are the only ones that did but since my Dad/Grandpa took his life 7 years ago. I am the only one that has took care of her taken her doctor, hospital etc....I am the only one who visited her on Holidays for her birthday, took her out to lunch. Now they who has had nothing to do with her show up at her bedside and accuse me of stealing her money and that I don't belong there. I am devasted but I don't want her last moments to be arguments either. What do I do?

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Registered: 01-26-2004
Tue, 04-03-2007 - 1:09pm

(((((Honey))))), I am glad things worked out so you could have a bit more time with your mom/grandmother.

AcornLeaves
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Registered: 09-11-2004
Tue, 04-03-2007 - 8:02pm
I am sorry for your loss, yet thrilled you found a way to be with her. Please know we are here for you.
Beth
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Registered: 04-02-2007
Wed, 04-04-2007 - 7:32pm

I am glad you were able to visit. I remember how hard it was to go, say goodby. Much worse than saying good-by than at the graveside& memorial service.

I had been working/living out of state for the last 17 years the last 5 years as a traveler -
I could have spent more time at home working in the last year, but I choose not too. I have some small regrets, but not many about that. I did get to spend the last few weeks with her.
I know that if there is love the love is felt even if physicaly you are not there. I know I still feel Moms love.

000552k3 

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Registered: 09-13-2005
Wed, 04-04-2007 - 8:29pm

Whether you are beside your mom/grandma or not, she knows how much you love her, She knows that it was you who was there for her when she needed you the most. She knows and feels your love for her. I feel very badly that your family feels the way they do, but....you rest assure that your mom/grandma, loves you very much and knows what they are accussing you of, is not true. You both love each other deeply and that you were the one that was there do care for her, to do for her, and that my dear is what counts.

Unfortunately, there are alot of families that don't have anything to do with another member of that family until they are ready to pass away, and they are there for one reason and one reason only, "MONEY" It is very sad.

My thoughts and prayers are with you, and know that all of us here on this board care. If you ever need a soft place to fall,or just to vent, the women here are very suppotive and very caring.

((((((HUGS))))) Miriam

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