A thought occured to me last night

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Registered: 03-01-2004
A thought occured to me last night
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Tue, 04-03-2007 - 11:16am
The thought occured to me last night. I would have traded places with mum in a second, if there was a choice but who was going to live and who was going to die. However I can't imagine her having to suffer this loss and pain. I would hate for her to have to suffer this lonely empty sad feeling.
Last fall there was young girl in town that was killed in a car accident, and mum said I can't imagine if I lost you. I would never want her to feel this way.
This is the only place I could say that, and you guys understand, I'm afraid in the world of women with mother's it would sound like" whew I'm sure glad she died and I didn't" ya know?
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Registered: 02-15-2007
Tue, 04-03-2007 - 11:48am

I think your Mother would have something to say about trading places with her. You are a young vibrant woman who has so many wonderful things ahead of you. The desire to sacrifice yourself for your Mother is noble but when the time comes you will find the strength to return to the living and strive for those babies. Those babies will be a big part of who she was and she will be very proud of you.

Kiki

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Registered: 04-30-2003
Tue, 04-03-2007 - 2:27pm

Sweetie I know what you mean, but moms always make the sacrifices, taking the smallest portion of food so her children can eat. Wear that same winter coat for years so her children can new ones. Working their fingers to a bone so she can just provide the basics to her children.

I thought of that too, but my mom was the type that she would have killed me if i did that. Well that sounded aful, but you know what I mean. She didn't even want me to have to clean out the house because she knew how painful it would be, like it was when she cleaned out her mom's house.

We have another folder here called motherless daughters, you might want to take a peek.
I hope you have a wonderful day.

Love ya
Gail
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Registered: 09-13-2005
Wed, 04-04-2007 - 9:39pm

It is a terrible thing to loose any loved one, but....to loose a child is unthinkable. For a child to die before his or her parents is not the circle of life. My brother lost a son in a horrific car accident and my mother lived to see a grandson die, not the way it is suppose to be. My brother and his wife's lives are not the same. So as much as we don;t want to loose our mothers or fathers, unfortunately that is part of life. Eventually life does go on and we will always miss them, and love them.

Your mom would of never wanted you to trade places with her.

Take care and know that we are all here for you.

Miriam

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Wed, 04-04-2007 - 9:50pm
Thank you, yes I realize that. I have watched my grandmother not only lose 2 children but her two youngest children. my youngest uncle died just about a year before my mom passed away.
I would hate to see mum feel this pain and lonliness.
I'm so glad this group is here.
Angie
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Registered: 09-13-2005
Wed, 04-04-2007 - 9:57pm


(((((Angie)))))

We are so glad that we can be here for you, and so feel free to post when you want.

Miriam

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