Don't know how much more I can handle

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Don't know how much more I can handle
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Wed, 04-11-2007 - 10:29am

Hi everyone. I've been busy, busy the last couple of months. Yesterday I got some bad news. I have to put my dog, Zoey (8), to sleep tomorrow. This on top of everything else is making life even more stressful. I'm still trying to get used to life without mom and now I'm losing my best friend. I've done everything I can for her, and now there's nothing else that can be done. I don't want her suffering anymore. But it's still hard. I hate this part of having pets. She's the first female dog I've ever had, which makes it even more difficult. I told my husband that it isn't fair because now I've lost the two most important females in my life in a matter of 6 months. Ugh! What is going on? I don't know how much more I can take. And my dr. wanted to try weaning me off of my Zoloft this week?? Yeah, right! That's not happening. Thanks for listening.

Angela

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Wed, 04-11-2007 - 2:12pm

((((Angela))))

Aww sweetie, I am so sorry for what you have to go through. I know how you feel about your precious Zoey asleep. We had to do the same with our cats, (not at the same time). Kikker was about 12yrs old and Milo was about 10 yrs old. It is hard. My poor dh was just bawling and said, I am crying more for Milo then when I lost my dad. Like any loss it does get easier. My dh said no more animals, which is hard for me because i have never been without a cat or a dog. All you can do sweetie is keep telling yourself that at least she isn't hurting anymore. I know that isn't the most comforting words and it is easy for me to say...but it is true. Having to deal with two devastaing losses is not an easy thing to go through. Lean on your family and lean on us. We are here to do what we can to ease your hurt. I too lost my mom and now my sweet dad is dying of lung cancer. He is living with us and it is hard to see him slowly decline. I just don't want him to suffer.

You will be in my prayers and thoughts, especially tomorrow. Please post as much as you feel you can so we know how your doing. It may be to early for me to ask, but have you considered adopting another pet when you feel up to it?

You take care sweetheart.

Love ya
Gail
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Wed, 04-11-2007 - 2:35pm
Oh I'm so sorry. When I lost my mom, I started worrying what if my Chloe Anne gets sick. I couldn't bare to lose her too.
You are in my thoughts and prayers.
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Wed, 04-11-2007 - 2:37pm

Gail,

Thank you for your kind words and encouragement. Yes, I've already submitted an application to a rescue group. I think adopting will help us all get through this, especially our other dog. I'd like to adopt a puppy if possible because we have young kids, and I think that would be better than an adult dog. I'll keep you updated.

Angela

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Wed, 04-11-2007 - 2:40pm
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Wed, 04-11-2007 - 7:00pm

Angela,

I am so sorry that you are going to lose your beloved dog. Sometimes losing a pet is more painful than a family member (human). Even though I appear to be a strong person dealing with loss I do not have pets for just that reason. I know a counselor is in need for that statement but it's true. We lived on a farm growing up and had all types of animals and pets and they ALL eventually died. As a child it was helpful to deal with other types of loss BUT the most painful part of my childhood that I choose to NOT repeat as an adult.

I hope that you can find peace in your loss tomorrow. What others have said is to NOT focus on that she is leaving your life BUT to focus on how much time you had her. I personally hate when people say that myself. Just a little levity Angela to help.

Kiki

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Thu, 04-12-2007 - 7:50am

Shortly after my sister died, we had to put down her dog and my cat, both with kidney failure. What a loop that threw us!


I understand what you are going through, and I think the idea of a rescue dog is great. You might want to think of a young adult (a year or so) if you have young kids, the yearlings are past the chew stage, for the most part.

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Thu, 04-12-2007 - 11:37am

Thank you all so much. I really do appreciate your kind words. This afternoon will definitely make me feel better. I need to see her in a peaceful state, unlike Tuesday night when we visited her. She was in pain and she got really upset when we left and didn't take her with us. You could hear her crying all the way outside the vet. It was terrible. I know that I'm doing the right thing for her. It still hurts, but at least I can find comfort in knowing I've done all that I can. And of course there are plenty of good memories to make me smile. Thanks everyone again.

Angela

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Thu, 04-12-2007 - 9:45pm

Martha Tousley has written this Bill of Rights.

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Thu, 04-12-2007 - 10:08pm

Very nice post Barb!!

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Fri, 04-13-2007 - 3:01pm

(((((((Angela)))))))))

I am so sorry for all that you are going through. No matter what kind of a loss it is, it is a loss.

I had purchased a cat may years ago, and he was only 3 months old at the time. I have always had allergies, but as the years went by I had developed asthma. It got to the point where I had to use two pumps and I was getting really sick. I was never allergic to any animals and 14 years ago I developed a bad allergie to cats, dogs, and hosres. I had no choice to put my cat down at the age of 11 ywears old. I had long discussions with my vet and he suggested that I put him down as he was old and very attached to me, and therefore by giving him away, he would not be happy and probably would of died with out me.

It was one of the most diffiuclt thing that I had to do. My husband and I swore that there was no chance in this life time, even if I over came my allergies to animals that I would have another one. That was so painful that I could not dream of ever doing this again. It is hard enough toloose a human loved one, and to loose a animal loved one, never again.

So, I think that we all know where you are coming from and our thoughts and prayers are with you.

Love Miriam

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