Lost a Close Friend
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| Tue, 05-15-2007 - 3:39pm |
I came to this board as it has helped me before in other areas. I've always found that the people here are so supportive.
I just found out one of my best friends passed away. She had breast cancer (second time around). It was a shock because she didn't really tell anyone how very sick she was. I was so shocked and am now am feeling very empty and sad and wishing she were here right now.
Not sure how to feel. Sad or guilty. She got rather stubborn at the end of her life, but that was part of her charm. Sometimes it was difficult and I wish I had another chance to talk to her before she died.
I guess right now I'm just trying to deal with the fact that it did happen and she is gone. I miss her very much already and I just found out a short while ago.
thanks for listening,
Luv

oh Luv
I am so sorry. Guilt and sadness and anger and resentment and love and fear all get mingled together when someone dies. Sometimes I think I felt all of those and other emotions I couldn't even name. I have come to the conclusion, though, that "all manner of things will be well."
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Thank you Beth. I'm very happy I came here as it's a santuary when things don't always go the way we want in life. Your help and support, along with everyone else here, really helps me a lot.
Thank you!
Luv
((((((Luv))))))
I am so sorry for your loss. I can not even come close to imagining what it would be like to loose my very best friend. We are like sisters to each other, and have been and always will be there for each other in good, bad, sad and happy times.
What you are feeling is very normal, and you should give yourself permission to grieve. It takes time, but in the meanwhile you can sit down and perhaps write a letter to your best friend. It is just like journalling but you would be writing to her. It is very theraputic and very calming, at least it was for me, when it was my mom's 2nd anniversary in Jan. After writing and reading it out loud, it was like my mom was able to hear what I wrote. Keep all her good memories with you, look at pictures and reminise about the good times you had with her. You may find that there will not only be tears, but laughter aswell, which is ok, it is ok to remember and laugh about certain events that comes to mind.
My thoughts are with you, and perhaps when you feel up to it, you can write us and tell us all about your best friend. I am sure that all the women here would like to know more about her.
((((((((hugs)))))))) Miriam
(((((Luv))))), I want to belatedly welcome you to our board.