New "Widow"

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Registered: 12-15-2006
New "Widow"
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Mon, 06-04-2007 - 3:32pm

Hello, I am new to this message board.  A friend at the fibro board recommended I check you out.  My husband just passed away 2 weeks ago and I am going crazy without him.  We have been married for 20 years and have a total of 7 kids between us. He is just 57 and I am only 44.  He had been fighting throat cancer and we thought he was starting to do good.  The cancer ate at the wall of the artery running through his throat and it ruptured.  He basically died from blood loss here in our dining room.  Our youngest child(son) was home at the time and we are both having a very difficult time with this.  He graduates from high school in just 3 weeks. I want to be in the casket with my husband but because of the kids I am not.  I can't imagine life without him.  We did everything together.  My family has not ben any type of support.  They didn't even bother to come to his funeral.  But they say they loved him.  We had moved to another state just a yar and a half ago and so we don;t really know anyone yet.  My family being the way they are is making things sooo much worse. I have never felt so alone before.  I always had my husband so I wasn't alone but now he is gone.  Will I ever learn to live again? I need all the help I can get!!


Thank you,

Linda

Linda

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Registered: 01-26-2004
Mon, 07-16-2007 - 10:57am

Liz, here are a couple of links I just posted to Linda which may provide you with some additional information about veterans' benefits:



There is another iVillage board that might know more about trying to get veterans benefits -- Military Wives.

AcornLeaves
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Registered: 12-15-2006
Mon, 07-16-2007 - 12:06pm

I haven't heared back from him or anyone else for that matter. I left a voicemail for the director of Hospice in this area and she couldn't be bothered either. She sends out a survey form to fill out and her cover page states that if you have any concerns or questions please call her. I did and she hasn't returned the call. I guess I should have more patience but I need help now not next week(then too)or next month. I am having a hard time getting people to understand the urgency I am feeling. I feel like everything is a battle and I am too tired to fight anymore. I have been feeling very depressed and I know it's not good. Why can't people undertand? Oh well, here I go rambling on again. My apologies! I will check out the web site you gave me.

Thank you soo much,
Linda

Linda

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Registered: 01-26-2004
Mon, 07-16-2007 - 12:31pm

How frustrating that must be!

AcornLeaves

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