Newcomer: Jengerl

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Registered: 01-26-2004
Newcomer: Jengerl
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Mon, 06-18-2007 - 11:47pm

Jen posted the following message in response to one by Karyn.  I have copied it to post it here so that you can offer her your support and compassion.


Hi Karyn,


I'm so sorry. I lost my dad Oct. 9, 2005. It doesn't get any easier does it? I also find myself crying almost uncontrollably at the drop of a hat. I'll think I'm doing great and the next minute I'm weeping. I've had to run out of the grocery store, CVS & my son's school because I'm just overcome by a memory, a smell...


On the one year anniversary I went to a cemetary. My dad was cremated and I have his ashes so he's not buried anywhere, but I was looking for a place to really mourn alone. I found a quiet place where there was no one and I just howled. I cried and cried for a good hour. I walked around and looked at the stones and cried some more. I allowed myself to fully grieve. Then I did what my dad would have done...I went back to work!LOL. I'm not sure what I'll do on his 2 year anniversary. I may do the same thing or I may go out to a restaurant with my mom and talk about how much we miss him.


Be very easy with yourself and do whatever feels right. It's so God awful hard to lose a parent isn't it? Take care.


Jen

AcornLeaves
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Registered: 09-11-2004
Tue, 06-19-2007 - 6:32am

Hi Jen


Welcome. I am Beth, the other cl here. I apologize for not greeting you sooner. I teach, and we are in the middle of grading exams. I don't read from the computer much when I have to read essays all day.


You had a great message, please post often!