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| Sun, 07-01-2007 - 1:46pm |
I'm a 30yr old female.My brother at the age of 32 commited suicide.He was married with a 4yr old daugthter and a 5 yr old daughter and a baby on the way.The baby will be 2yrs old in October.My brother owned his own buisness.The family went on vacations.Everybody thought my brother and his family were happy.He hid it very well that he was depressed and in finacial trouble.

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Hi
I am Beth, one of the cls here. I am so sorry about your brother. It is always a tragedy when someone dies, and it seems worse when the person takes their own life. It sometimes hurts more because WE can see what they could not, that they were loved and had a life worth continuing.
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((((((Sweetie))))))
I am so sorry to hear of your loss. You have come to a very soft place to land. The ladies here are just great. My grandpa (dh's side) commited suicide also and he was in his 80's. He had lost his wife a year or so before and just missed her that much. My father in law found him. It is hard to understand the why, but we are here to help and to listen and to care.
Just know we are here. When you are up to it, would you mind sharing a little bit about your family? Just take care of yourself sweetheart. Get rest and eat and keep yourself hydrated. Sometimes it helps to contact your local hospice and ask for a grief counselor to help. Even keeping a diary can help. Please know you are welcomed here and we will all be here for you,
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butterfly7608 -
Im sorry to read about the loss of your brother.
Thank you so much for the support.My sister-in-law has a new boyfriend now.They went too Mexico a year after my brother died.I've never been married so I don't know how it would feel to lose a husband.But I would think that the griefing process would have been longer for my brothers wife.The family didn't know that she had a boyfriend until recently.My mom found her myspace page on the internet.Like they say though we all grief differently.Some like company others want to be alone.
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butterfly,
(((((hugs))))) to you on the loss of your brother. I've been through a loss by suicide twice so I can understand for the most part what you're going through. It's difficult especially when there weren't clear signs that someone was depressed or struggling with issues. I think men tend to hold their feelings in more so maybe that's why we don't see it and are even more shocked when it happens.
I know you may be angry about your sister-in-law already dating and that's a perfectly natural thing to be feeling but grief is somewhat like fingerprints...not everyone does it the same way. She may be feeling that she needs to move on and this is how to do it. She also still may be very angry at your brother for leaving her and this is how she's coping with it. It is still hard to accept that what may be right for you isn't how someone else chooses to deal with it. I sincerely hope that you both can eventually understand each other. I know that when my best friend committed suicide her father and mother-in-law chose to blame the wrong people and instead of commiserating with each other they lashed out at everyone and unfortunately it ruined relationships. I think they've finally started to realize that (5 years later); however, for me that relationship can never be repaired.
Have you thought about going to counseling or a support group to help you? I know it helps when you're around other people who truly understand what you're dealing with. Again, let me say that everything you're feeling is natural. It does dissipate with time but I don't think it all ever goes away.
If there's anything I can do to help please don't hesitate to reach out to me. If I don't answer right away I'm definitely not ignoring you, I've just been traveling a lot lately. Good luck with everything. You're in my thoughts.
Julie
Thank you for the support.I was going to counsling.I would like to go to a support group but there isn't one in my small town.I don't have a car right now.I think my mom is having a problem dealing with the fact that my sister-in-law has a boyfriend more then me.Hopefully in time like you say she will come around.
a punch in the gut.
((((((butterfly7608)))))
I want to send you my deepest condolences on the loss of your brother. It is so difficult to loose a loved one, especially when they take their own lives. Please know that you are not alone and that we are all here for you whenever you need a soft place to fall. The women here are very caring and supportive. Please feel free to post as we will all be here for you.
Meanwhile please take care and know that our thoughts and prayers are with you, and his family.
(((((hugs))))) Miriam
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