Mom died suddenly...I feel so lost
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| Thu, 07-12-2007 - 7:57pm |
Hello,
I'm glad I stumbled across this board. On June 23, 2007, I lost my Mom suddenly to what was either a major heart attack or a stroke. She never regained consciousness and never got stabled enough for them to do a CT scan of her brain to confirm stroke or heart attack. It all happened so fast! My mom lived with my hubby and I and my six kids ages 22 yo to 15 months. She was my caregiver to my children, my rock and pilar of strength. I miss her terribly and feel so empty. I am scared and anxious wondering if I can go on without her. And I know I must in order to raise my children, the grandchildren she so loved and adored. I have a twin sister and it is just as devasting for her and her children as well.
Thank you for letting me share my story. I hope to learn from all of you, how to grieve and go on living.

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Aw, I am so sorry for your loss. I too, lost my mom earlier this year. Like many of us have said, you will heal in time. Don't worry. There is no set time for grief, it will subside and then come back and blindside you when you least expect it. Holidays will be hard, but they will get better as time goes on.
Just remember: Time will heal. Don't be afraid to talk about your mom. For me it helps. I am sad, but it still helps.
Feel free to share! I hope you feel better soon! :)
((((((Sweetie))))))
I am so very sorry for your loss. This is a soft and safe place to land. THe ladies here are wonderful.
I lost my mom in Dec of 2004. It hurt so bad. We were 400 miles away, but we talked everyday. When I got word that she only had a couple of days left....well words can't describe what I felt. We do go on each in our different ways. I would suggest that you and your precious family contact the Hospice unit in your area and have them recommend a grief counselor. Also alot of ladies suggest a daily diary. You may not be ready for that yet, but it does help. You need to grieve the way you want, we are all different and there is no right or wrong way. The sudden loss of a loved one is devastating, but you will be ok. Let the tears flow sweetheart. Tears make room for smiles and happy memories.
When your up to it sweetie, please tell us more about your sweet family. But also remember to take care of yourself. Try to get some sleep and eat right and keep yourself hydrated.
We all care here and will be here for you.
Love ya
Gail
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I am Beth, one of the cls here. You have truly found a place that understands and cares. I am sorry I couldn't answer this post yesterday, but, you will understand when I tell you that yesterday was teh anniversary of the death of my mom. It stinks, losing the one person I (and obviously you) could count on for everything.
You know what, though, even though life for me was forever changed July 12, 2001, my life went on. Different, at times painful, but I can now remember Mama without completely breaking down. My 3 year old never knew her Grandma June, so once in a while we trot out the stories for her. And they are wonderful stories.
You are so very welcome here. Please post as often as you need or want to do so.
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My sister, Geri, lived with my DH, DDs and I. She moved in early in 2001. She was chronically ill, on dialysis and had many life threatening diseases. She also was my DD#1's favorite person on earth. When angry with her dad or I, DD would "run away from home" to Aunt Geri's. The fact that "Aunt Geri's" was right downstairs in our first floor was besides the point. Aunt Geri, when she was ill, would have tea parties on her bed. When she was well, BRE and her aunt would have elaborate dress up parties. Geri often kicked DH and I out of the house for special times with BRE.
Four days after I had my youngest, Geri had a stroke. Later in 2004 her lupus went on a rampage and in December she died.
Sometimes when I go downstairs, I still expect her there.
My DD was 9. She was devastated. Hospice had a great program for kids who were grieving. You might want to check it out for yours. They had kids as young as 4 at the program.
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Hi!
I lost my mom 2 1/2 years ago. The first year is still a blurr and I was so lucky to have a wonderful husband to work through it all with. I started seeing the therapist that my mom and dad were going to. They talked a lot of marriage talk, but it was like hearing from her when I talked with him. I still miss her terribly, she was my best friend. Now I feel so incredibly lucky to have had such a wonderful relationship with my mother. It sounds like you had a similar relationship with your mom. I have so many of her things and some of them still have her wonderful smell. It makes me cry still, but I am so happy to have those tears. It keeps my special bond with her alive.
I hope that the coming days and weeks you will find your way again.
Hello, (((((Elknc))))).
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