My best Friend...
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My best Friend...
| Fri, 07-13-2007 - 1:32pm |
A dear friend of mine passed away in a tragic car accident early Sunday morning. This woman was more than a friend... she was family. Our families grew up together, we went to the same church, we spent holidays together as family... I'm so angry, scared, I feel alone. I want to be supportive to her family and friends, but I feel like I lost a sister, and I don't know how to get past this. I miss her. She was too young. 20 years old. She has a 1 year old daughter that will never know her mom, and Mindy loved Emily more than words can describe. How do I get past this? What words can I offer her sister? What to do?
PENELOPE
My Children, My heart
My Children, My heart


Hi Penelope
The best words I heard at both my Mom and my sister's funerals were "I love her too" and "I miss her too"
Do you have photos of your friend?...get copies. Everything from when she was little to more recent. Make a scrapbook for her daughter.
These things will help you...and her family.
Hello, (((((Penelope))))).
It's so hard. The day after Mindy's funeral (funeral was Thursday), the father of Emily came to Mindy's parents house with the cops and his mother to take Emily. Matt has not been a part of Emily's life for the past year. He doesn't care about that child. I can't believe that they didn't even give the family a DAY to grieve the lost of their child, sister, mother. How cruel and heartless is that? I hope that all of the trouble (drug wise) Matt has gotten into in the past helps Mindy's parents get custody. It really makes you think twice about having a will in place, so that the state knows your wishes once you have passed. It seems like no one is catching a break... and it's so hard to imagine her gone. It's been a week since she died, and I still feel like she's here. I feel her, I expect to hear her, see her... it's weird.
Thank you all for the kind words you have shared with me. Do any of you have any legal advice as to what Mindy's family can do?
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My sympathies go out to you and Mindy's family. You do not have to be blood relatives to be prt of a family as I have a girlfriend who we considerate each other best friends and very close sisters. I know that if anything would happen to her, I would be devasted.
I know that Mindy's family is going through a very difficult, as you are. But..........you must give yourself permission to grieve aswell. Maybe one day you can get together with her family and sit around and talk about her, share some memories with each other, that may bring some tears aswell as some laughter. This is a good thing, as tears and laughter are good outlets.
As for Emily, maybe you can keep a journal or scrapbook with stories and pictures of Mindy which will be a nice keepsake for her as she is growing up. You can also talk to Emily about her mom and tell her stories virbally, what kind of a women and mother she was and how much she loved her. By doing so, you will be keeping her memories alive. Also you can try writing Mindy a letter, as this can and was very theraputic for me when my mom passed away. I still write her letters 2 years later telling her things that are going on and how I feel.
Grieving and healing takes time, so take one day at a time, and may the good memories help you and her family through this difficult time.
My thoughts are with you all,
Miriam