next level after overwhelming grief

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Registered: 07-17-2007
next level after overwhelming grief
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Tue, 07-17-2007 - 10:06pm
My beloved husband of 37 years died Thanksgiving weekend 2006. My mother died suddenly 5 weeks later. This was a bit to much to take in at one time. Although I have a wonderful family and a great support group to help me through the worst time it's time to be on my own. I'm really looking for people who understand the loss of a loved one but are on their way to healing. I'm tired of going over my husbands death and illness. It only brings back the pain which is not real healthy for healing. If there's anyone out there who would like a friend who is going through what I am PLEASE write me. I need to hear from other people like me.
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Registered: 01-26-2004
Wed, 07-18-2007 - 12:22am

Welcome, (((((Lynn7625))))).

AcornLeaves
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Registered: 09-11-2004
Wed, 07-18-2007 - 6:53am

Hi


I am Beth, the other cl here. I do understand some of what you are feeling. I lost my Mom in 2001 and my sister in 2004. I literally had to start replacing my thoughts, like turning the dial on the tv. When I thought of Mom or Geri, I replaced the thoughts of loss with memories of something more pleasant. It was so hard.


I also had a hard time coming to the realization that not feeling miserable was okay. It wasn't disloyal or anything like that.


I do have to say, I gave myself a year before any of this. That first year is just so hard, so give yourself time.



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Registered: 09-23-2004
Thu, 07-19-2007 - 2:47am

I've had a bit TOO much go on for me recently so I can relate to the feelings of NOT wanting to think/talk about it anymore.

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Registered: 09-11-2004
Thu, 07-19-2007 - 8:16am

I remember printing a sign that said I was resigning from the responsible adult club and changing my name. It also said that I would let people know when I was back.


I even wore it at work.