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when does the pain end
| Fri, 08-03-2007 - 6:29pm |
Hi there... I lost my mom to cancer almost 4 years ago, but it feels like yesterday. We were very close and had a great relationship. Our whole family was that way. My mom and dad were married 56 years and he talks of her as she was his life, even to this day. He still goes to the graveyard and knees down and prays...usually 2-3 times a day. I am close to my father and I am a carbon copy of my mother, right down to her mannerisms, she was always a peacemaker and didn't like conflict of any kind. My mom and dad sang together, my dad played guitar...all our lives and i have several cd's and tapes of the two of them together and it's wonderful. However... I am wondering why it hurts me to much to hear it, whereas my sister, can play the cd's and look back and enjoy it...where as I look back and wish it was still that way? I also suffer depression/anxiety and possible bioplar disorder, although I have yet to have a manic period. I just miss her sooo much :( Any comments would be helpful. Thank you for listening

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Welcome to the board! Are you getting therapy for the possible bipolar and the depression/anxiety? If you are, you might want to ask the therapist if they know of a good grief counselor. If not, Hospice would know.
The pain fades, but doesn't necessarily go away. My cousin, my sister's best friend. and I were talking Wednesday about my late sister. My cousin can''t go to the cemetary. Just can't bare the thought of it, can't even go to our grandparent's graves because they are across the road from Geri's.
I have gone, but infrequently.
Time takes time.
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Your dad and mine sound alike. Daddy swears Mama comes and sits with him at night. The crazy thing is, we keep finding bobby pins, like the ones Mama used, on and in his couch...and HE certainly doesn't put them there.
Mama had Alzheimers...but to the end her eyes lit up when she saw Daddy.
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You mention how differently your mother's death has affected