Dreams & Signs

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Dreams & Signs
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Mon, 08-27-2007 - 10:30am

Colleen just posted a wonderful message about signs she has had indicating that her father is okay!


http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-bhgrief&msg=5049.9


Let's share some more of these experiences here.  They offer so much comfort and reassurance.

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AcornLeaves
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Mon, 08-27-2007 - 2:56pm

I lost my father on June 30 of this year. After he passed, I was in the room with him and said, "Dad, could you send me a sign that you're okay? I mean, it has to be obvious because you know I just don't get it sometimes!"

Late in the day of his funeral, we were swimming at the hotel where one of my sisters was staying. As we were swimming around the pool (indoor), a HUGE storm came up. Lots of wind, rain, lightening - the works. As soon as it was over, there was a double rainbow. Not very common for where we live. Two of my nephews said to me, "Aunt Rita - do you think that's for Grandpa French?" "It has to be, guys - what do you think?"

They agreed. So now every time we see a rainbow, we always say, "There's Grandpa French!"

RitaC1966
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Mon, 08-27-2007 - 3:02pm

How special!

AcornLeaves
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Thu, 08-30-2007 - 12:38pm

Barb, sweetheart,

I am so happy that you had posted this Dreams and Signs. As you know my mom has passed away 2 and half years ago. I know that we all believe in certain things and some don't, but..................last year when my husband and I bought our brand new home, we were outside working in the yard, when all of a sudden this beautiful monarch butterfly was flying around us. I thought nothing at the time, and so my husband and I continued and then went into the front of the house to do some work there, and there was the monarch butterfly. When I sat on my patio, there it was again. I thought well it is a butterfly and it will fly where ever. I had told my hubby that maybe this is ma, and his response to me was, that if I beleived that, it was ok, as he is not a believer in things such as this. This year the monarch butterfly was back, whenever I sit on the deck, or working in the garden , there she is.

I have one more story about my monarch butterfly where this just gave me the shivers down my spine. When my daughter was in the hospital very very sick, I was talking to her on the phone while I was sitting on the deck. While having a conversation with her, I said, "here is bubie (grandma) again flying around me, and Stephanie said to me, "Ma tell her to come to see me," and went on to say she was going to get off the bed so that she can open the blinds. Well, I said to the butterfly, Ma, go and see Stephanie, and I just for got about it. Then I said good bye for her and 20 minutes later she called hysterical and said that the monarch butterfly, her bubie flew by her window. When the nurse came in to see if she was ok, and my daughter expalined,& the nurse said that she really believes that this was my mom spirit.

Somtimes it can be very scary, but I believe that this butterfly is my precious mom who we all love, and miss sooooo much. My two friends bought me this beautiful monarch butterfly (magnetic) which sits on my fridg.

So, I believe that if some one feels that certain things are a sign from a loved one that has passed on, and it makes them feel better, then they should just go ahead and believe it. I don't know if I truly believe that this butterfly is mom, but I sure want to believe that it is, and so I will.

Love you ,

Miriam

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Thu, 08-30-2007 - 4:34pm
Sometimes I believe that the idea would not have come to mind if this were not a gift from our loved one.

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AcornLeaves
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Thu, 08-30-2007 - 5:05pm

You are so right Barb, I truly believe that it is definitely a gift from our loved ones. Very well said. Thanks!!

Love you,

Miriam

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Wed, 09-05-2007 - 3:08pm

Here's one not sure if I have shared this one or not....

My parents owned a candy store in a small touristy town her in Northern California when my Dad passed away. (My father's dream became my mother's nightmare). My mother and I use to commute the 1 hour to the store on the weekends to run the business as she tried to sell it. On the way back a few months after my Father's death we were exhausted and it was very very hot. We were in my Father's truck and we passed a woman and her child standing at the edge of a very long driveway way deep into the country here. It was so hot that the ground was dry and yellow but the mother and child wore brightly colored clothes with the biggest smile on their faces. They watched the truck as we passed by. Not a word was spoken between my mother and I for a few minutes. Eventually my mother asked me. "Did you see that?". I responded.."Yes'. She then said, "If we turn around and go back will they still be there?" I said..."NOPE". We both saw them and we both knew we had experienced something amazing. We never discussed this until we went to a writing class and she wrote about it. Her story was identical to my memory right down to how they stood out standing at the end of the long driveway of this country home which we knew was vacant. Her story was so amazingly written that it captured the attention of the class and we all met out on that same property for a field trip. lol

My mother and I took that experience and embraced it as a sign from my father. We have never once questioned why he would present himself this way considering this mother and child had really no connection with my father or so we think but we both knew he wanted us to know that he is okay. We never questioned that we were so exhausted from working all week in our normal jobs and spending weekends running the store. We both know what we saw and we both know it was a present from my Dad.

So not every opportunity will be obvious.

I have another one that involves my niece. When she was 9 years old she was diagnosed with cancer. We were devasated (she is a happy healthy 25 year old woman now). A few months before he diagnosis her cousin at 4 years old died from a brain tumor. During the first summer after my niece's diagnosis we were at a softball game and a dog approached her as she sat quietly on a blanket watching us play. This dog attached herself to my niece and before we knew it we were calling the dog Amber's lucky star. It was so apparent that this dog was far more than just a dog. We aren't insane people who search out to find comfort in outrageous things. Amber was very close with my niece and at the time that my niece was sick we felt Amber pulling my niece to her. We fought hard to convince Amber to let my niece go that it wasn't her time and we have had an "intervention" at the cemetary to beg for Amber to let her go. (25 people were there so we aren't all crazy either.) This dog was persistent and went home with Amber's Aunt and the dog cried and cried all that night until Amber's aunt took the dog to my niece in the middle of the night where he fell asleep in her arms. I am not sure what happened to this dog since it was 1991 and so much was happening but we knew that Amber eventually let go of my niece and my niece miraculously survived the cancer (not the prognosis by any means.)

I know call me nuts but these are true experiences that we have had. I love this thread because I am a firm believer in visits by our lost loved ones.

Kiki

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Wed, 09-05-2007 - 5:06pm
Me, too, Kiki!
AcornLeaves