Family member was murdered....
Find a Conversation
| Wed, 09-19-2007 - 9:17am |
I feel guilty even posting this but i dont know how to feel right now. My cousin was in medical school with a 4.0 GPA and the BIGGEST HEART EVER. he noticed a homeless guy outside of his condo and the guy told him he was freezing and asked if he could crash the night.
My cousin, being the generous kind soul he was, let him in. A week later the neighbors called and said they hadnt heard from David (my cousin) in a long time. He hadnt showed up to his classes. No one had heard from him. The police found him dead in his condo and his car was stolen.
They are assuming at this point that the homeless guy murdered him and took off with his car. I am in shock. David taught me how to drive a stick shift, was so easy to please and always said how much he loved his family and wanted us to be closer.
I can almost not beleive it. It seems fake, like he will call tomorrow and everything will be fine again. My mom is going to my Aunts today (Davids mom's) and i wanted to go but i think they need sister time where they can just cry and lean on each other. Im scared to call my aunt and talk to her and share my grief with her because i think the more people that call the more "real" the situation becomes.
Im sad and confused and I need advice on how to handle this. Thank you all in advance.
-Leah

Pages
Kelly, thank you so much for sharing your experience with Leah.
Kelly,
Thank you for being so warm and helpful. Your story touched me and brought tears to my eyes. You are so knowledgeable and honest. I appreciate that. i DO lean on my family...we all must in order to get through things like this in one peice.
Thank you for your prayers. Mine are with you, as well. Hope things are becoming easier for you. ((HUGS))
Thank you all so much. David's funeral is tomorrow and truthfully, i am dreading it. it makes everything so "final". The weirdest things keep happening to me, i "see" him everywhere. people who resemble him i will do a double take and think its him, and then reality hits and i know it cant be.
i am so sorry for the loss of your grandmother. even though it was so long ago im sure the memory haunts you. it will haunt me for awhile too. just know they are both in better places watching over us. it gives me some comfort.
sorry it took me so long to respond to all your unbeleivably thoughtful comments. you are all so wonderful.
(((((Leah))))), it is not unusual at all to think you see him everywhere you go.
Pages