Still in denial?

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Registered: 08-23-2009
Still in denial?
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Sat, 07-31-2010 - 10:45pm

I posted in a lower folder about the dreams I keep having about Luke.  Sometimes I get all the horrible reminders o f what happened, what he went through and sometimes he is alive and well.  Part of me wonders; if in a way, I am still hoping it never happened and the other side of me needs to see him.  I was talking it over with a widows support group I have joined and many of us are experiencing the same type of thing. Is anyone else experiencing this?


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Sun, 08-01-2010 - 3:24am
I wish I could dream of my husband.
Carrrrrried...away2
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Registered: 11-04-1999
Sun, 08-01-2010 - 4:23am

I am so very sorry on the loss of your husband.

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Sun, 08-01-2010 - 4:35am

I don't know that I would call my situation as denial more like I still can't believe Mom is gone as she lived almost 3 hrs away so our main communication was the phone in which I called her every friday or saturday so I think when those days roll around, I should call her.

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Registered: 08-23-2009
Mon, 08-02-2010 - 6:12pm

Hi carriedaway,


welcome to the board. I can tell just how early on you are in the bereavement journey as you are still counting time. I want to tell you please not to beat yourself up over what you said or didn't say to your husband.



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Registered: 08-23-2009
Mon, 08-02-2010 - 6:15pm

Hi Josie,


thank you for sharing your feelings. I am glad the tears were healing ones. I think your mom sounds like she was and is still a very special person. I know she lives on, those truly loved can never really die.


In Gentleness,


Promise







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Tue, 08-03-2010 - 5:22am

Thanks Promise.

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Registered: 08-23-2009
Thu, 08-05-2010 - 12:05am

Hi Josie,


I wear Luke's wedding ring on a chain too. It's like I keep a little piece of him with me.


I hope you manage to get the house sale before the winter comes. It will be one less worry for you too although I know how hard it is for you to have to do it.


Promise







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