Incomplete Orgasm

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Registered: 10-09-2003
Incomplete Orgasm
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Thu, 10-09-2003 - 10:56am
Help! I am a healthy 34 year old who had a great sex life until a year ago. After experiencing great orgasms for nearly 20 years, all of a sudden a year ago I somehow "lost" the ability to experience the part of the orgasm that occurs in the brain at the moment of climax. I read where the five stages are: desire, arousal, plateau, orgasm, and resolution. All other parts are there and seem normal, even at the end I feel the normal "contractions" below the waist and the "resolution" phase seems the same *except* that I am aware that I skipped over the best part of the orgasm. It is depressing to reach "resolution" without feeling that wonderful surge of electricity that starts in the brain and permeates through the body!

A year ago I was stressed and mildly depressed and went on Effexor for about a month. I could not tolerate the drug; its side effects of insomnia and jitteriness caused more problems than the mild depression I had. I weaned myself off it and a week later, like someone had flipped a switch, my orgasms were all but gone. I knew there were sexual side effects, but had been told that everything would return to normal. It didn't bother me at first as I expected things to just naturally come back in time. But it has been a year now and I haven't had a SINGLE full orgasm since then. I'm starting to worry now!

I'm also concerned that this is a problem I've never seen talked about anywhere - typically what I've seen written of orgasmic dysfunction revolves around inability to become aroused or stimulated to the point of being able to climax. This is not the problem. I'd love to know if other women experience what I am experiencing, and if they found any way to solve the problem. I've talked about it with my doctor, but I didn't feel like my problem was taken seriously. I suppose I am paranoid I will be told it is all in my head, that it is a mental or emotional issue, but I really feel that my problem is more physiological, like whatever triggers that cascade of neuron firings is missing. My doctor did switch my birth control pills but that hasn't helped. Any advice, suggestions, direction, resources, any one could give me would be most appreciated. Up until now I've been tolerating this situation and not letting it get me down, but yesterday I realized that this has been going on for a year now. This upset me greatly and I am beginning to be afraid I will never regain my full orgasms.

S.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-14-2003
In reply to: st428
Thu, 10-09-2003 - 11:22am

I'm so sorry you are going through this.

 


 


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