Is it possible to be pregnant on day 8?

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Registered: 08-27-2008
Is it possible to be pregnant on day 8?
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Wed, 08-27-2008 - 2:04pm

Hi,


I need some information, and I am driving myself crazy. I apologize in advance if it's too much information.


A little over 2 years ago, I had a tubal ligation after the birth of my third child. I only had one complete and intact tube, as I lost the left tube a few years earlier in an ectopic pregnancy.


Fourteen months later, I found out I was pregnant and then miscarried. It could possibly have been another ectopic, and my body reabsorbed it. Though I was sad to miscarry, in theory, my husband and I are plagued with marital (his infidelities/aftermath) and financial problems, which is why I decided to get the tubal ligation in the first place. Getting my tube tied helped me feel closer to my husband as we didn't have to worry about pregnancy and we could work on healing our relationship and the needs and welfare of our children, as I am sure they were affected by the dark times of our marriage. Also, my third child has some minor, but financially costly needs.


Since this time, we have used condoms. I am also just terrified to get pregnant, so there are times when I just avoid him. Not great for our relationship. He had scheduled a vasectomy then cancelled as he is afraid of how it will affect him. He hates using condoms. Usually, I schedule out when it's safer to not use protection, a couple of times a month, to try to appease him and work on us. I am not comfortable with this at all. I do not react well with birth control pills and because of my history of ectopic, I am not a good candidate for IUD. I don't want another ectopic. I want to put my kids first


Anyway, this month, I had my period on August 11th, 28 days. I usually go between 26-28 days, though usually 27 to 28 days. And my periods since my miscarriage last up to 6 to even 7 or 8 days. This time lasted about 6 days. Because I didn't have access to my usual calendar, I figured out that it was okay to have unprotected sex on the 18th. We had unprotected sex, one time, very very early August 19th, like 3am.


I suddenly realized with terror that this is probably outside the window allowed. One calendar defines it borderline safe, but not great. My mind is now consumed with worry. I took a ovulation test on August 21 and it was positive.


Because I am so terrified of getting pregnant, I get seriously fixated on this. I feel like I must be pregnant. My breast feel sore-ish. Things feel swollen and diffferent. But, I have been afraid like this in the past and have not been pregnant. A lot of my fear of being pregnant is 1) I totally don't want another ectopic, and miscarriages are horrible; 2) I have a lot of scar tissue in my uterus from previous c-sections and operations and I cannot afford any time away from my three precious children on bedrest; 3) it's too stressful on my marriage.


Is it possible to be pregnant on day 8 of cycle? My judgment is very cloudy right now, and I don't know if I could tell so soon or not, as all I feel is fear from my anxiety over this. I know I am quickly creating symptoms of pregnancy, as the other day I felt nauseous and all, but I think that was my nerves.


Even if I am pregnant, afterward, I am just going to have my remaining tube removed, as it just makes me so worried that years from now I will have another ectopic. I also feel like an idiot because I didn't trust my first instincts when it came to being on the fence, and I felt al little pressure from my husband.


Thanks for any help

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Registered: 07-26-2006
Wed, 08-27-2008 - 9:39pm

Hi there,

If you ovulated on day 21, and you had sex early on day 19, then yes, it is possible for you to get pregnant. But the chances are very low with you having had your tube tied (and yes, I'm aware that you got pregnant before).

If you're husband isn't willing to get the vasectomy done to ease your mind and help your relationship, then why are you appeasing him by letting him go without condoms? It seems when it comes to your sex life, that you are the one making the compromises.

 

 

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Registered: 08-27-2008
Thu, 08-28-2008 - 8:23am

Hi, thank you for your reply.


When I took the ovulation test, I followed the time schedule that the manufacturer suggested, and Aug 21st was the date that I calculated that I should take the test. I know that from the directions, the surge the test indicates comes within 12 to 48 hours of getting a positive result. So, I assume this meant that I ovulated sometime from the 21st on, but mostly the 12 to 48 hours following, putting me around Aug 23 as the date of actual ovulation. I have learned that sperm can stay alive in a female for up to 3 to 5 days. Some sites say even 7, but most indicate 3 as the norm, occasionally 5, and rarely 7. I can somatize sensations for just about anything, and so I can tell if the things I feel are actually happening or from my imagination. Like for example, this morning I woke to my lower back hurting and then recalled how this can happen in pregnancy.

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Registered: 07-26-2006
Thu, 08-28-2008 - 8:32pm

Hi there,

Yes, sperm can survive for up to five days, but I think that with you having your tube tied, and only just being inside the possible window, then you should be more than OK.

I think if your husband is going to reschedule the appointment, then you should probably just book to have your tube removed if that's what you want to do. He's already back out twice due to cowardice, so I can see it happening again. Yes, a vasectomy is a much less invasive procedure than a tubal, and has a much smaller recovery time.

 

 

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Registered: 08-27-2008
Mon, 09-08-2008 - 1:36pm

Hi,


I wanted to thank you for your help. Writing the post, and reading the response was helpful in me evaluating some things going on in my life, so I wanted to thank you.


Since writing the thread, I was having more and more pregnancy symptoms, mainly fatigue, occasional nausea and queasiness, dizziness, cramps, feeling of fullness in

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Registered: 07-26-2006
Tue, 09-09-2008 - 10:24pm

Hi again,

Your doctor may refuse your request on the basis that it is very invasive surgery that isn't really needed. So you will need to talk to your doctor, and then if he/she won't do it, then find another doctor.