Bleeding after sex... very frustrated :(
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| Wed, 10-22-2008 - 10:55pm |
A couple of months ago I started dating someone new and for the last couple of weeks we've been having regular sex. After, however, I've been noticing some pretty heavy bleeding... once we stop having sex the bleeding stops and I don't even spot the following day (if I do have spotting it's generally dark brown and very light).
For some background:
About two years ago I was diagnosed with mild cervical dysplasia (HPV related). I had cryotherapy to remove the abnormal cells and all of my paps since have been normal. Would this have anything to do with the bleeding after sex?
I've noticed very light bleeding after having sex with a previous boyfriend, but with the new guy it's much heavier and much more frequent. We haven't had rough sex, so I don't think that's the cause. We've also always used protection so I think it's very unlikely that an STD is the culprit (unless it has something to do with the cervical dysplasia from two years ago).
I guess I'm just extremely frustrated with this whole thing and I feel like a "freak." I just want to have "normal" sex with my boyfriend instead of ending the evening with tears and blood. My boyfriend is very supportive and kind, I just hate that it's such a new relationship and we have to deal with this nonsense.
I guess I'm just looking for some words of comfort... I have an appointment to see my doctor, but it's not for almost a month (she's an AMAZING doctor and she always has a long waiting list... ). Until the appointment, is there any magical treatment that will stop this bleeding? (or at least allow my sex life to regain some normality).

Hi there,
Unfortunately there isn't a magical treatment to stop the bleeding during/after sex. And it will depend on the issue as to how long it will take to fix the problem once you've seen the doctor. Some women find that they have problems with bleeding after sex if they are on the pill, since the pill can cause changes to the cervix and make it more vulnerable to damage and bleeding. Other problems like endometriosis, polyps and fibroids can also cause bleeding after sex. A scratch caused by a fingernail during foreplay can also cause problems, since friction during intercourse will continually reopen the wound and make it worse.
The only thing you could try is The Instead menstrual cup which can be used during sex, due to its design. See http://www.softcup.com. If it's a uterine or cervical issue, then the menstrual cup should contain any blood during intercourse. If it's a vaginal issue, then there isn't anything you can do except avoid sex.