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How to get others to understand
| Mon, 08-02-2004 - 9:46am |
Any help would be appreciated.... I'm trying to get my mother to understand what's going on with me and all she does is say I'm lazy and to drink more water. Are there any articles/weblinks etc I can share with her to help her understand hypo and how it's really affecting me and WHY I need to get regulated via meds. She thinks I should just take a vitamin. This is really causing a HUGE split in our relationship....
Thanks.

((HUGS)) ~Kelly 
I really feel for you, though. I think your mom's perception is pretty much the general feeling that people have if they don't know anything about this condition. That it's an "excuse" for weight gain or laziness, when it that couldn't be farther from the truth!! I hope this helps and maybe others will have some good ideas, too. Hugs, Cathy
Thanks...my dad was recently diagnosed hypo. I'm sure she tells him it's in his head too...but I am too far away to know what goes on.
he thinks it must be something else. anyway, i know this is not of any help whatsoever on your original question... but i don't have an answer for the original question. the best you can do is try and send info- but it is up to your mom to be interested enough to read it. sometimes, people just stick their head in the sand, because it is easier for them to be in denial then to deal with what is really going on around them. maybe she somehow feels responsible...? or overwhelmed by the people closest to her being sick. maybe it is brining up issues of mortality in general, her mortality or your father's or yours. illness has a tendency to do things like this to people. it get's them thinking. and some people have to use a defense mechanism because they are not ready to deal with whatever the illnes may bring. denial is also the first stage in the grieving process- could she be grieving the changes in your father, in you? the changes in the rlhsps?
just some thoughts.
Erika
My mom has never believed I had migraines either, I was never treated for the severe headaches I had all through my early teen years to when I was an adult. When I had my own insurance, I started trying to get help. She tends to want to ignore these things with me, like I am the first child and could never be anything but perfect.....make sense?
My dad is really ok....he just was having some troubles with cholesterol and working his butt off and never losing any weight. His reg. doc suggested he go to and endo and get some blood work done..... Found out he was hypo and needs to be on 50mcg Synthroid. His mom is also hypo.... but my mom doesn't see the trend.
Also me running into a brick wall with her....shucks.
Denial is one of those lovely defense mechanisms that can manifest in a person. It may have to do with the way your mother was raised or has chosen to deal with things. I know a lot of people who think if they ignore "it", "it" will go away.
I don't think ignorance is the best way to live, but maybe your mother would be willing to read about the symptoms and what not. Maybe if you could tell her that you just want her to understand that this is what you , and what a lot of people go through.
That's funny about what your dad said about the medicine though. Like it was a tylenol!
I hope that you can help your family to understand more about this, the way they look at medical care and illness might have something to do with their generation. I just hope that it doesn't cause too many problems for you.
I hope that you start feeling better soon! Take care, Lisa.