Thanks-"Butt-heads".....

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Thanks-"Butt-heads".....
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Thu, 06-26-2003 - 7:09pm
I am being a "butt-head" for whining about those nasty butts.I know I am NOT a failure..but I really think at this point in my life that I am NOT very strong..dealing with work, my moms situation (I just got back from the nursing home) and the kids being out of school. I have got to lighten up tho--NOT light up!!! HEY HUGS and GOLLY!! I just made that up!! Lighen up- don't light up!!!YAY!!!But it is an ODAT battle for me--and if I screw up--hell!! Ill just will keep on trying. I love you all!!! Mel

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Thu, 06-26-2003 - 7:53pm
>>I know I am NOT a failure..but I really think at this point in my life that I am NOT very strong..dealing with work, my moms situation (I just got back from the nursing home) and the kids being out of school.

**You're right you're not a failure, not a good time .. However you also know there is never a good time .. So for right now this minute .. No smoking No buying them either!

>>Ill just will keep on trying.

**Yep .. keep doing it until you get it all right And you will of course



>>Lighen up- don't light up

** Very good

Love you too hon :)

~Hugs~

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Thu, 06-26-2003 - 10:08pm


"Lighten up, not light up"! Good and true one Mel. :)

Never quit quitting-it will happen! :)

~Golly~

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Thu, 06-26-2003 - 11:56pm
Hang in there Mel, you CAN do it!!!

Just take it a day at a time!!

Melanie

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Fri, 06-27-2003 - 11:35am
That is awesome!! Lighten up; don't light up! I love it!!

Good for you girl! We're here for you always!! ;o)

Much love,

~DJ~

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Fri, 06-27-2003 - 2:15pm
HI Mel!!! Are you an ex-smoker??Or trying to quit. Lots of us here are..just curious!!! Mel( Melinda)

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Fri, 06-27-2003 - 4:49pm
I LOVE that. Lighten up, don't light up. Mel, thank you for your post. I was afraid to admit I "failed" again. It was a few days ago when my catastrophic imagination led me astray, I thought I had lost a new friendship, beat myself up considerably, and, yep .. KNEW (sure) that I could not go on without smoking. Why, since I was such a terrible person, I didn't deserve to be smoke-free, ya know. Listen to me play my violin! But it seemed so TRUE! It turned out my friend (YAY) had pretty much forgotten about our conversation, and told me I was like a little girl when I came into her house, shaking, with a letter of apology. She and her family are very religious, and when she told me I must be strong, and that I must have faith (I was getting ready to go to the doctor to have 2 procedures done), she said it in a way like I didn't have any faith at all and I took offense. And she cried for me, and wow did I feel like a piece of crap.

Later that night, a few hours after I got home, I realized I had forgotten to call and get her order. Her husband answered and said I had the wrong number. I KNEW it was him, and, WOW. I thought she must have collapsed into his arms and told him of this heathen woman whom had upset her so badly, and that he was being the strong Latino father and protecting his own.

Turns out I have a private number and it doesn't show on caller ID so he thought it was a telemarketer. I had also called around 9:30, which is very late for them. To tell you the truth, I have messed with telemarketers myself. And I used to BE a telemarketer.

Anyway, THEN I found out that her children (twins, like mine, and the same age) had been called home "urgently" -- also a misnomer -- while I was gone, never mind that my guys are not allowed to have friends over when I'm not there. I figured the father must have come home, soothed his almost comatose wife, and immediately called his own away from this sacreligious place, never to allow the children to return.

It took me an hour to enter 2 orders in to the puter, because I could not stop thinking about this horrible thing I had done. The next day I prayed and gathered my courage, after writing this letter to her, and went over. I thought, I have to try. I also thought that if I were to be rejected I would immediately put into action my very insidious plans for revenge.

Turns out I will probably never be able to spray plant killer on her tomatoes, or sling mud on their gray mini-van.

OK I have not read your crash and burn post but I will try to learn more. For me, I did not follow through on my plan to get with a support group here in my town. SOOOO I'm taking a good look at that. I need to get myself better back up.

Talk to you soon. Hang in!

Love,

Yogi

 

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Fri, 06-27-2003 - 6:32pm


Oh my Yogi,

>>I was afraid to admit I "failed" again

**You don't really fail hon as long as you keep trying .. Which I know you will, are ..

Sometimes things just have that way of working themselves out after we have let our imaginations run wild.. and for the better as you and your new friends now see..

So glad things worked out .. like I had any doubt

Hope your weekend is a good one :)

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Fri, 06-27-2003 - 7:08pm
Well, Yogi--at least your post made ME lighten up!!! You are a funny writer in an Erma Bombeck kind of way.I think you should be a writer!!So I dont understand tho did you "light up or Lighten Up?" xoxoxo mel (OH and BTW--anyone who used to be a TELEMARKETER should be USED to being scorned!!)

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Sat, 06-28-2003 - 6:43am
Yee Gods Yogi! I got lost in all that but I hope the end result is you somehow keep away from those cigarettes! Telemarketers!! What a pain! On another site I visit someone posted a site http://donotcall.gov Sounds like a good idea, I looked it up. Wish it was in Australia!! Hang in there kiddo, nothing dull in your life!! Hilary
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Sat, 06-28-2003 - 9:15pm
HEY Hil-- I signed up for that site also!!! it was on the AO-Smell main welcome page. You are not supposed to see results for 3 months tho!Do the telemarketers "BUG" you there in Aussie -land as they do here?/ I cant stand it!!! I know these folks are trying to earn a living but its like they KNOW to call when it is totally BAD timing!!!xoxoxo mel

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