Help me get through this ...

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Help me get through this ...
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Sat, 07-12-2003 - 3:22pm
Hi, before I check out Wednesdays Wiggles, if anyone thought I was lying about the perspiring I am NOT. And there's more.

I am having very bad moods. Really bad. Maybe I have been sounding good here but my kids would beg to differ. My doctor said these moods - more than moods, they last for hours - are directly related to the hormonal changes and this will be the most difficult time in my life. I have bipolar illness which is the reason for the prognosis. He is not trying to scare me or be negative, he is warning me. I have to be SO careful.

Right now maybe the tranq is kicking in. I would rather just sleep through this. I hate myself!!!! I mean, not myself but this time! My kids hightailed it to their chores - and the one is so upset, he worries I know, but he is also mad I'm sure. He said yesterday, "I hate hormones!" When I got through a spell (mostly) this afternoon, I told them how much I hate it too, and I apologized and they just hugged me. I am so very lucky. But, I am afraid as this goes on that they will want to do anything but hug me.

Oh man am I emotional right now, ladies. When it was bad this morning, I just wanted to lay down and avoid it, but I couldn't. I started cleaning the kitchen, and what a racket I made. The kids disappeared to their chores. I clattered dishes just as noisily as I could. I threw things across the kitchen. I did not break anything yet. But man talk about aggressive!!

I know Golly's going to say meditate. Not THEN I couldn't!!!!!!!!! See those exclamation marks, Golly? I think I will later, after I'm done spilling and reading about Wednesday's Wiggles and Thursday's collections. Which could be the rest of the day. Actually, it'll get my mind off myself. You are so GOOD for me!!!

It's not too hot in my room right now as the weather is cooler. Maybe I should just stay in here until my "hulkness" fades, in about 4 or 5 years.

Oh yeah, I have ordered a supplement which my doctor says DOES help some women. Usually medical people are so against natural things. So I believe him. NOT about to take hormones -- hmm, though, maybe I would be better off if I had the heart attack there is increased risk for, and just die. What do you think?????

I did get a shower and put a bunch of smelly lotions on, and feel a teensy bit feminine now.

HELP - Hugs, Golly, is there a board for crazy women???

Love,

Yogi

 

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Sat, 07-12-2003 - 3:29pm
Oh yeah, while I'm complaining, I'm ALSO not sleeping well. AND I am completely stopped up, if you know what I mean.

Does anyone have any ideas about diet that could help with the hormonal changes? I will do extra exercise today and just so you know, the supplement is black cohosh, chaste tree (?) berry extract, and soy isoflavones. Those are the ones I remember anyway.

Love,

Yogi

 

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Sat, 07-12-2003 - 3:55pm
OK Yogi, you have a big problem BUT you can find ways to help! PLEASE go to the Menopause and Perimenopause Board and repost this to get some advice from there. I tried to email you but can't 'cause you still haven't fixed up that profile! You owe it to YOURSELF and your family to sought out these things.

I take a black cohosh product which works for me but you may just have to take hrt!! The above site will give you detailed information and help you make some choices.

You really need to find a doctor in whom you can have absolute faith and who is up-to-date. Good Luck but get help NOW so you don't continue to be miserable and make you and yours miserable. It doesn't have to be that way. Hugs from Downunder.........Hilary

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Sat, 07-12-2003 - 3:57pm
I know,really,how you feel. My hormones have been going wild.Yesterday If someone LOOKED at me the wrong way I would have RIPPED off their head and shoved it--you know.I am 45 years old and in what is called peri-menopause.I take xanax for my nerves-but it makes me tired.What was the natural remedy you found??It sucks being a woman sometimes wiyh all the homonal moods we have to deal with--I DO understand.I am like that once a month--FOR DAYS!!!Just do the best you can.Slip away to your bedroom-SHUT THE DOOR-cry if you must..just try to calm down.Its ALL in your head..eveyone just LOOKS like EVIL MONSTERS-they really arent tho..and its NOT your fault.Nature can play mean head games w/ us poor Moms...WE CARE...xoxoxo mel

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Sat, 07-12-2003 - 3:57pm
Aw Yogi - - you are Not a Crazy woman. My sis in law has bi-polar and I know she has a hard time too sometimes.

There is an I-Village board, go to boards, to the HEALTH home page and it's down there on the right side near the bottom. I checked it out and must say though that is does NOT have the participation that this board does. You might check it out - - also the Web site and articles they have there.

AND, No, you are NOT BETTER OFF WITH THE HEART ATTACK AND DIE!!

STOP THAT!!

Hun, you can do this. Enlist that doc of yours to help you get to where you can be prepared. THere are some natural supplements that Do help - - and that's smart to look into that.

Yogi - do you know anybody else with Bi-polar? When I was first diagnosed with this hypo, I was terrified,,,but as I learned more and also talked with folks going through the SAME thing, I've come to be able to handle the rough stuff. Talking with gals with the Same problem helped me tremendously.

Hope things calm down a bit for you. You take good care Yogi.

Hugs, Tracy



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Sat, 07-12-2003 - 4:04pm
Tracy is right Yogi. This is what these Boards are all about. Getting women together with similar problems or things in common. This board would probably help you more than the one I recommended http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-bhbipolar. Hey anything is worth a try! Hugs again Hilary
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Sat, 07-12-2003 - 4:07pm
How weird. I was going to go get chaste Tree extract ,also!! I read about how it REALLY helps w/ mood swings!!!You and I are in the same boat. I will hold a life-jacket for you and you do the same for me!!Hang in there. I also have been looking into hormone-replacement therapy, but I have never taken the pill..but I hear a low-dose one can REALLY help w/ the mood swings. YOU cannot smoke on them, altho I am totally quitting (again) Monday..I pray!! Mel (PS)..If you are not smoking THAT could be the reason partially for your moodiness..and being "stopped up"..I drink grapefruit juice when i cant "go"..it helps me!!

"Mel on Wheels"    

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Sat, 07-12-2003 - 6:14pm
Hi Yogi,

You're not crazy hon .. However you must be willing to do something about this time in your life .. Meaning there are good herbal things to use, as well as over the counter drugs and also meds that the doc can prescribed for you.

They all help and work but you have to be willing to try them to see which one is for you .. The choice is yours as to what it's going to be

>>My doctor said these moods - more than moods, they last for hours - are directly related to the hormonal changes and this will be the most difficult time in my life.

**So what did he/she suggest to help make it easier and livable ..

We have a perimenopause/menopause board if you would like the link let me know ..

It's very helpful ..

Take it easy hon :)

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Sat, 07-12-2003 - 6:22pm


Well, I had a post I sent here but the screen when white and stubbornly would not budge past *posting message* even through I tried to trick it by going back and then forward.

It more or less just said that I see the other ladies had some good ideas hon. One I had as a substitute on those bad spells is to use that piano and let it boom out? There's some great music for expressing feelings and moods.

>I did get a shower and put a bunch of smelly lotions on, and feel a teensy bit feminine now.

**Good thinking and I'm glad it helped a little. Think I'll try it after dinner. :)

Here's hoping that suppliment your Dr. suggested works for you hon.

Big hugs,

~Golly~



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Sun, 07-13-2003 - 12:25am
Hilary, I can't make a profile. I have tried many times, but nothing happens when I click on the link, so I can't even get in.

I click, I get an hourglass for a second, then it goes back to the hand. Over and over again I have tried. Sorry.

I don't really want to go to a board where EVERYONE is nuts. But, I'll look for it.

Geez, I was just starting to get comfortable here. :(

Yogi

 

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Sun, 07-13-2003 - 12:28am
>>I don't really want to go to a board where EVERYONE is nuts. But, I'll look for it.

**Don't think that's what she meant hon .. I believe she meant for support, tips, help with your bipolar .. Just as I recommended the perimenopause/menopause board

>>Geez, I was just starting to get comfortable here

**We're glad you are :)

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