week from hell

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Registered: 03-27-2003
week from hell
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Sun, 07-20-2003 - 12:21am
OMG!!! TY Hugs--i am not home you all.i AM ON MY SITERS LAPTOP.its hard to use.My mom has so TOTALLY deterioated this week, I am at my siserts house sitting my mom and using my sisters PC>.She has LOST it.both mentally and physically..we have to re-place her pronto.. ie find her a new place!! she can no longer beon her own..she has fallen 2x this week for NO reason..We have to get her straight..but no-one knows what is wrong..It has been hell..My youngest sis is here now to help from baltimore..its a battle just to keep her from going nuts(MOM)..dementia..no strength..still smoking..she falls down at the drop of ahat..I cant take it anymore.Her facility wants her to leave(smoking in bed)--BUSTED.Mom doesnt know what day it is..or anything,,,all she wants is to sleep--eat--and smoke.she slept 18 hrs today!!!Its like a night mare--if she doesnt have cigs she goes nuts..My little sis hs no patience...never smoked==but Mom will be COMATOSE and crawl for a cig..it so sad..I cant DEAL w/ this anymore.My older sis went to the beach w/ dh for a break--i am alone--Lilsis asleep,also.God help us--gotta find hera place PRONTO..I dont have the room or means..I am so stressed..I have missed you all.I want my LIFE BACK!!!!!xooxoxoxoxoMel

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Registered: 03-24-2003
In reply to: melsch57
Sun, 07-20-2003 - 12:44am
Is your Mom on SS??Medicare??You are lucky you live in Florida--there seem to be more choices there. We had my grandfather in a nice Intermediate Care Unit but that was on the eastern side of the state. **** Get in touch with social services***. I can get the name of the place where we had Grandpa Bub--maybe they have a facility on the west coast of FLA. We had to sign over his SS check to them and we got him Medicaid support as well.

I wish I could think of more--try to calm down--10 deep breathes and a glass of cold water--seriously!!!!In the meantime--HUGS and kind thoughts coming your way!!!!!
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Registered: 03-19-2003
In reply to: melsch57
Sun, 07-20-2003 - 12:49am
Oh {{{Mel}}}

My heart and prayers go out to you as you're going through this. Take it one moment at a time and know we're there in your pocket whenever you need us.

Love and gentle hugs,

Golly

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Registered: 04-04-2002
In reply to: melsch57
Sun, 07-20-2003 - 12:50am
Mel, it's Hilary. God I am so sorry about what's going on. I wish I could help. At least you are not entirely alone in this. You HAVE to get a grip!!! God, I feel so helpless right now. Why don't you call a close friend on the phone and vent a little, it may help. There must be somewhere you can find to put your Mum! Her situation isn't unique. It is so unfair, I know. Hang in there and there must be someone you can talk to, just keep typing madly on this board for that matter. At least you know we are all wanting the best for you. {{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}} Hilary
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Registered: 03-19-2003
In reply to: melsch57
Sun, 07-20-2003 - 1:26am



Awww {{{Mel}}}

I feel so bad .. wish I could really do something for you hon.

Sorry to hear about your Mom all of a sudden like this.

Glad you are there for her though .. Thank goodness for your sister's laptop too

Hopefully you get some answers on Monday from the doctor right ..

As for her smoking .. oh sheesh .. She may have no choice but to quit ..

Talk about being forced into a quit ..

All you can do now is to be your strongest .. Know you must be there to help your Mom ..

You will get your life back .. For now Do what you must ..

We are here for you always hon ..

Lots of loving thoughts and prayers for you all ..

Please keep us posted on what's going on when you can.

~Hugs~

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In reply to: melsch57
Sun, 07-20-2003 - 8:11am
Mel, like everyone here, I am so sorry. Barb's idea is excellent...check into that.

I'm hoping and praying this will all be calmer for you both soon.

xoxo,

tracy