Just venting

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Just venting
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Thu, 07-24-2003 - 6:36pm
I have been gone from work for one week and I still hate my job. Well not the job just co workers I guess. Nothing was done while I was gone. The things that did get done are wrong. As for going home well it is not much better I am getting that want to run away feeling again.Dh has started an arguement every morn this week as I am leaving for work. I do not understand I have been so good to him caring for him and all but he is still pissy with me. I dont get it. Have I not done enough? I mean really he cant work so dont it just make sense that I must go to work. I think we will get very hungrey if I dont go to work. I wish I could get a raise I did ask but was blown off as usual. Home or work I feel unappericated I think is the word I want.

Hugs I dont know what health and fitness mean anymore. Here is my confession. I have ate anything I want I have not moved at all unless required. I started this weight loss idea and at first it was great I was losing feeling energized and just pretty ok with me. Now It dosent matter cuz I lost 20 lbs total and that was that the weight quit comming off I got bummed and said forget it. I still cant handle the sugar soda yuck!! I stick with the small changes. 2% milk, butter substitutes, diet soda, water.so here I am ant thoughts???

~Mary~
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Registered: 03-25-2003
In reply to: devecmon
Thu, 07-24-2003 - 6:40pm
I don't know about the health and fitness part....but you ARE APPRECIATED!!!! I know how you feel tho...I was getting that way myself. I'm slowly coming out of it tho...and you will too! Just keep coming back here!!

Maybe he's frustrated that you're going to work and he's not? Or maybe he wants you to stay home with him cause he's bored?

Many hugs to you sweetie...hang in there, it does get better!!

Mae

~~~ Mae~~~
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In reply to: devecmon
Thu, 07-24-2003 - 6:57pm
Hey Mary, Sounds like your lot is not a happy lot at the moment. If positive wishes can make a difference then know that there are plenty of them coming to you from Downunder. Perhaps really concentrating on the positives in your life might help and taking a little time out just for yourself! Things have a funny way of turning around so I'll keep my fingers crossed for you. Hilary
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Registered: 03-19-2003
In reply to: devecmon
Thu, 07-24-2003 - 7:16pm


{{{Mary}}}

>>I started this weight loss idea and at first it was great I was losing feeling energized and just pretty ok with me.

**And that's a good thing! :)

>> Now It dosent matter cuz I lost 20 lbs total and that was that the weight quit comming off I got bummed and said forget it.

**I know how discouraging that plateau can be-seems like I've been hovering around it forever! Just know we can get past it.

Aww hon, I'm sorry things aren't going well right now. I don't know why life seems to pile it on at times, I do know these things do pass. The work will get caught up and dh will get better and once he can get busy again, happier. Meanwhile, I hope you can do some activity that makes you feel good about you.

~Golly~

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Registered: 03-19-2003
In reply to: devecmon
Thu, 07-24-2003 - 7:27pm


Awww {{{Mary}}}

I sure can understand your frustration hon.

I also know that feeling of not being appreciated ..

I think at work you need to *talk* to someone who can help you maybe ..

It's important to be able to *want* to go to work when it's a must, you know ..

As for home .. Well perhaps you spoiled your DH

Sounds like you need to speak with him as well and see what he wants from you at this time. Let him know you don't mind helping him, taking care of him ..

However you are independent of him and still want to do your *own* thing ..

does any of this make sense, LOL .. I hope

>> I dont know what health and fitness mean anymore.

**Well that's why we are all here to learn, help each other and feel better overall.

You have done so well with your quit smoking and losing weight ..

Sometimes easy to get off track ..

However now is the time to *make* that time for you ..

Get back on track and do what needs to be done just for Mary!

Small changes are great and the way to go .. baby steps you know ..

Everyday do something healthy just for you ..

Eventually you will be back on track with us giving you that :::gentle push:::

HTH

~Hugs~




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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: devecmon
Thu, 07-24-2003 - 8:03pm
Oh Mary!

I *so* agree with all the ladies on this board. God would NEVER give you something that you cannot handle. This is just a little funk you are going through & it WILL PASS.

Like Hugs said, concentrate on the positive things in life; not the negative.

Remember that your job is a means of income. Yeah, most of us cannot stand our jobs; but we need them nonetheless.

Also remember that you & DH are life partners; not competitors in life. If he acts pissy, return it with love. He will see that he is acting foolish. I'm sure you have days like that yourself.

Last, remember you can always come here. This is a safe space to always be yourself.

We love you & are here for you always!

Much love,

~DJ~

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Registered: 03-24-2003
In reply to: devecmon
Fri, 07-25-2003 - 9:55am
Last, remember you can always come here. This is a safe space to always be yourself.

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Well, here I come with my two cents after all these great ladies have

hopefully already cheered you up a bit.

DJ is exactly right in what she said, Mary. When you get frustrated and

ready to throw up your hands and *bolt* from REAL LIFE, know that you have

another 'family' here.

I'd just like to say that I know that after surgery sometimes, there is a bit

of post-op depression that can come with it for some people. Perhaps your

dh is going through that. Believe me, my dh has been through numerous surgeries

in the past 12 years, and its NO FUN. I remember they told me one time that

surgery can be worse on the care-giver than the patient.

So just try to hang in there until he is able to return to work. It'll get

better.....you are probably overly tired and very frustrated right now.....

"This too shall pass." Just keep telling yourself that.

stel

* Stel *