Any words of support?

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Registered: 07-24-2003
Any words of support?
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Thu, 07-24-2003 - 7:46pm
Hi, I'm new to this board. I was wondering if anyone has any advice for me. I'm 28 and have been excersizing regularly for years. I got married last month and was in the best shape of my life. I have never received so many compliments on how I looked. I felt so great! But since I got back from my honeymoon, I have slacked off. I have gone running twice in the past month and not at all in the past two weeks. I went to the gym to lift weights and after two sets I went home. I had ice creame for dinner last night! My husband works out (he swims) and has been encouraging me to get back into it and last night told me that my attitude was suffering since I stopped working out. I responded with a middle finger when he turned around. (Maybe I do have a bad attitude?) I know the longer I wait, the harder it is to go back. But I just can't seem to get my butt off the couch and put on my running shoes. It just seems like too much work! HELP! My jeans are getting tighter by the minute! Any tips will help. I'll check back when I get back from Baskin Robbins.

Thanks!

Andrea

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 07-24-2003 - 7:53pm
Welcome to the board Andrea~

Well, you started off on the right foot. If you come to this board everyday, you are guaranteed to get back in gear. We have daily motivators that keep all of us going.

As easy as that may seem, *you* need to make the first step & get your booty in gear! :o)

Start out slow if you have to. Put your running shoes on with the idea in your head that you're just going for a walk. Once you get out there, say to yourself, "Well, I made it this far, I may as well run."

Take baby steps! Don't be so hard on yourself. When you're hard on yourself, it only sets you up for failure.

Once again, welcome to the board.

We hope to see you around more often!

Much love & hugs,

~DJ~

dasindyson@comcast.net

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Registered: 04-04-2002
Thu, 07-24-2003 - 8:31pm
Hey you, get your young butt off that couch and into the gym or whatever. I think what you are experiencing is a natural coming down after what must have been one of the most exciting times of your life so far. Wow, only married a month ago, that is wonderful and such an incredible change in every way. You could take up swimming as well!

Come on, up you get and get going. A great life in front of you with a guy who obviously must love you to pieces. How was that honeymoon, did you have a good time, where did you go? See ya here so Hugs can keep you in line with your fitness! Hilary

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Registered: 06-06-2003
Thu, 07-24-2003 - 9:04pm
Hi:

You can start slow after that time you stopped working out, dont go home after 2 sets at the gym, try to stay in there at least 30 mins. YOu can swim or run or whatever works for you!!

I know how do you feel, when you dont feel like working out, sometimes I take breaks like a week, two weeks, without working out! But the more time pass without you exercising the more time will take you to decide and take some action about it.

I also understand, when everybody is telling you that your gaining some weight - that your body and face dont look as it used to be. It really sucks. No one likes when other people tell them what to do, especially if its about weight issues. Of course that affects the way we feel, and we get mad and annoyed by everyone that tells us about that!

But you are the only one that can take that FIRST step again, and start doing something for YOURSELF, you know you been there - how it feels at the beginning and when results start showing up - youll feel wonderful!

So, dont eat that much Ice cream! And start getting your bottle of water.

HOpe this helps!

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Thu, 07-24-2003 - 9:14pm
Hi Andrea and welcome to the board :)

Congratulations on being just married! How wonderful!

Sounds to me like you've taken some time for yourself by adjusting to married life.

That is an ok thing to do for you and does take some adjustment.

Since you said you used to work out you know how good it may you feel as well as looked.

Give yourself a bit more time to adjust to life in genreal for now ..

Set a date as to when you *must* get back on track!

Coming here is taking the first step We can help.

We offer support, tips and lots of cheese to go with our *whines*

There are daily exercise check ins, water check ins, meal check ins and more.

We even have lots of *fun* traveling this journey together

All here to help make ourselves more accountable .. which helps.

Do come back again soon, and let us help :)

~Hugs~


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Registered: 03-19-2003
Thu, 07-24-2003 - 10:01pm
Hi Beanie,

Welcome to the board. :) I bet you made a beautiful bride. :) I hope you had a wonderful honeymoon...did you go anywhere special?

Sounds like you're making an adjustment to a very big wonderful step in your life-marriage. It's not surprising that you stopped exercising and working out now during this time.

The thing is, you don't sound very happy now that you've stopped doing all that made you feel great. I know it's hard when you're in this mood but perhaps you could start by doing whatever you choose in small steps or short intervals. Is there any possibility you and your dh could swim together or do you both want your own space and time for exercising?

If that's the case, perhaps his swimming time could become your time for YOU and what you choose to do. :) Any chance of finding a buddy to do your exercises or running with? Whatever you think of, try to do something. Just think of those feel good chemicals starting up again. :)

We'd love to have you come here with us. Just being here, working and laughing and being accountable together has helped many so much. :) Sooo you've probably been to Baskin Robbins by now ;). Make tomorrow the first day of the brand new upbeat you! Hope to see you here in the morning, raring to go! :)

~Golly~

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Registered: 07-14-2003
Fri, 07-25-2003 - 10:17am
Hi hon! I'm fairly new here too...but all the ladies have been just great! Good place to check in & get support! & having support is a big #1 step!! Are you concerned that your new hubby won't love you if you aren't super-model fit? Are you testing him without realizing it?

You do have to do it for YOU & not anyone else. But if you want to really get going again, I suggest you find something you enjoy & stick to it. Consistancy is KEY!! & coming here for accountability & support is great too! If you want to e-mail me, I'd be happy to talk that way too! But don't ever feel alone, because you aren't!!!

HUGS!!

Jo

www.TuneUpMyBody.com

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Registered: 07-24-2003
Fri, 07-25-2003 - 11:26am
Here's something that I used not too long ago to tone my legs and stomach a little more and I didn't even realize I was doing anything. Ankle weights. Wear them all day - cleaning, shopping, walking around the block - just not driving. When you start to notice a change in your body, you'll be more motivated to get back into a routine.
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Registered: 03-19-2003
Fri, 07-25-2003 - 8:25pm


{{Stargirl}}

How great you found something you can do, help support others while you're resting your knees. Hope they're feeling a little better.

Thank you for your share. :)

~Golly~