HELP!!!!!!

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HELP!!!!!!
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Thu, 08-07-2003 - 6:39pm
I should be ashamed of myself. My mother wants to come over for the week-end, but it is sooooo hard to deal w/ her.She can hardly walk--EXCEPT when she wants a cigarette, I have to wait on her hand and foot, its not that she cant do things,,she just wont TRY.So it will be day 3 for me w/ no cigs..I have to drive to Clearwater to pick her up.She has gotten very cranky and demanding since her accident--besides being incontinent, she always messes the bed, and she stays in my sons room ( which he cant stand..I have to literally disinfect it when she leaves) Dont get me wrong--I love my mom..but taking care of her and 2 kids this week-end will be quite stressful. So PRAY I make it thru the week-end w/ out going INSANE!!!!xoxoxo Mel

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Registered: 03-19-2003
In reply to: melsch57
Thu, 08-07-2003 - 7:48pm


Oh Mel,

I wish you could postpone her visit a little, this sounds so stressful to say the least.

You know you have my prayers.

God Bless,

~Golly

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Registered: 03-19-2003
In reply to: melsch57
Thu, 08-07-2003 - 7:52pm


Timing is everything so they say Mel ..

Anyway to postpone it for a week or so .. Maybe even tell her *why*

Perhaps you could ask her not to smoke while she is there ..

You'll just have to be as tough, as strong as we know you can be hon ..

Good thoughts for you .. You will be fine :)

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Registered: 07-24-2003
In reply to: melsch57
Thu, 08-07-2003 - 11:22pm
OH MEL! You can do it, babe! If I can sit here fighting cracking the next Pabst Blue Ribbon while desperately missing my personal sex God that happens to be in Maine AND lighting up you can handle this! I have some rough family stuff that rears its ugly head a couple times a week and I can more than understand. BE STRONG! YOU ARE WOMAN AND I CAN HEAR YOU ROAR ALL THE WAY UP HERE!
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Registered: 03-27-2003
In reply to: melsch57
Fri, 08-08-2003 - 8:12am
thanks..I wish i could postpone it too.She demanded to come over..REALLY!!when I balked because I had so much to do this week-end ..i.e. football and school supplies and pe uniforms to buy across town..she got very grouchy and snapped at me saying "well,I didnt know I was such a burden"..then she hung up on me. Of course she knew that i would fall for the guilt trip..as usual, she can be quite manipulative. So i will play the dutiful daughter and somehow get what I need to do done ( I hope) xoxo mel

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In reply to: melsch57
Fri, 08-08-2003 - 8:18am
Har Har..asking her not to smoke is like asking her not to breathe. its kinda funny tho--when i see her smoking ,all hunched over it really makes me NOT want to smoke.I do NOT want her health problems that she has brought on herself. It really invokes a good mental picture for me that lasts after she is gone. She is the poster child for why you SHOULD NOT smoke..wish me luck!! xoxo Mel

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In reply to: melsch57
Fri, 08-08-2003 - 8:21am
Do they still make P.B.R. beer?? Gosh my dad used to drink that!! I will be drinking my Miller lites tonite!!Or maybe wine--or BOTH!!!!LOL!!arrgh! mel

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Registered: 03-19-2003
In reply to: melsch57
Fri, 08-08-2003 - 9:35am
>>asking her not to smoke is like asking her not to breathe. its kinda funny tho--when i see her smoking ,all hunched over it really makes me NOT want to smoke.I do NOT want her health problems that she has brought on herself. It really invokes a good mental picture for me that lasts after she is gone. She is the poster child for why you SHOULD NOT smoke

**Ahh well if that is the case then that will help you not smoke!

I guess you're just going to have to come *here* when or

*if* things get tough this weekend,

Whine so we can help and it will make you feel better

Take it easy hon in the meantime :)

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Registered: 07-24-2003
In reply to: melsch57
Fri, 08-08-2003 - 9:45am
There is a beer store up the street that sells cold six packs of P.B.R. for $2. LOL!!!!!!!That was my comfort food last night :I. You can do it! Let this be a weekend that causes you to want to quit for good!
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Registered: 07-24-2003
In reply to: melsch57
Fri, 08-08-2003 - 9:47am
Nothing like a six pack of beer and "Queer Eye for the Straight Guy". ;)
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Registered: 03-25-2003
In reply to: melsch57
Fri, 08-08-2003 - 10:39am
I agree with everyone else....You ARE strong enough...and this WILL make you want to quit for good...

Love ya hon...and I feel for ya too!!!

xoxo Mae

~~~ Mae~~~

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