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Sat, 08-09-2003 - 3:06pm
Well how is everyone today? I am back to work. Dh has surgery last wed. I was told by the surgen that there was alot of scar tissue they removed. He was having a reaction to the plastic mesh that was put in the first time. That was alot of the problem. I think he is having a hard time setting still. He has done nothing but gripe and complain about every little thing for days.I know he is not used to doing nothing. I am doing my best but I must admit I am spent. I am so stressed out I cant keep track of anything. I know it is stress but I feel as if I am slipping back to that depression. I am fighting it really hard. I keep getting headachs, muscle aches and I am so tired. I just keep telling myself that we are on the down hill side now.~Mary~
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Sat, 08-09-2003 - 3:54pm
I know it is stress but I feel as if I am slipping back to that depression. I am fighting it really hard. I keep getting headachs, muscle aches and I am so tired. I just keep telling myself that we are on the down hill side now.~Mary~

Mary, how could it not be stress. With all you have to cope with at the moment. Maybe being at work will actually be a good thing and give you a break. Men really do "suffer badly" even colds and your dh has a lot more than a cold. Gradually things will improve -hec, they can't get any worse and the kids will be back in school soon as well.

Take some time out for yourself, a walk at lunchtime in the fresh air! Sending you "happy" thoughts from downunder. Hilary

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Registered: 03-24-2003
Sat, 08-09-2003 - 4:02pm
I know it is stress but I feel as if I am slipping back to that depression. I am fighting it really hard. I keep getting headachs, muscle aches and I am so tired. I just keep telling myself that we are on the down hill side now.~Mary~

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Well, hey there, Mary....so glad you were able to get out of the house

for a bit AND return to work. And it sounds like DH will mend much

better this go round.

Just wanted to give my 2 cents worth.....your physical pains AND the depression

are more than likely caused from the stress you have been under. Getting back

to worth will probably help a bunch...knowing some $$ will coming into the

household again until DH is back at it. Take care of yourself, and try to

get to bed as early as possible and get you some good rest. Rest is most

important to both your mental & physical health.

Take good care ~ ** stel **

* Stel *

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Sat, 08-09-2003 - 4:15pm


>>I am back to work. Dh has surgery last wed.

**Now this is good news Mary. :) Work will help with the money some and give you a diversion from caretaking dh. And dh now will slowly but steadily get better. I know the tunnel seems dark and scary but looks like there is some light at the end peeking in. Keep the faith hon.

Get out for a few when you can to shake your arms and hands, and gently roll your neck to ease that stress on your bod. Can you give him *something* to do? Peel potatoes, give you a back/neck rub in exchange for some request he wants you to do, write down a grocery list as you call out the foods needed?

Rest when you can hon and be as kind as you can be to you.

~Golly

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Sat, 08-09-2003 - 4:50pm
I can understand.I am stressed out ,also.Take a deep breath--it cant get any worse!!You WILL get thru this, the sun is shining just on the other side of the hill!!xoxoxo mel

"Mel on Wheels"    

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 08-10-2003 - 6:18pm
>>>I just keep telling myself that we are on the down hill side now.<<<

**I couldn't agree more Mary! Keep telling yourself that & trying to keep a positive attitude. Also, coming here is a great idea.

I'm so glad that DH is doing okay & that it was nothing *terrible*!! He will get through this & so will you!!

Much love to you,

~dj~