just a vent....kind of...

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just a vent....kind of...
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Mon, 09-08-2003 - 3:43pm
I'm going to try and make this as short as I can...I've been talking to this guy Chris, we had our 3rd date on saturday..he's great...he's sweet, kind, mature, funny, considerate, humble..i could go on and on...I finally let myself open up a bit and have started to like him. I wasn't at first b/c I have my guard up...but I don't need to go into that..LOL...i'm sure you all understand :)

So anyway...I met this guy in the bahamas...we kept in touch thru email for about the first 2 weeks after we got back and then it stopped until last Wednesday, he wrote me again. Well, after that, I couldn't get him off my mind again...he lives in Chicago, he's 22, still has a year and a half left of school...so pretty much, our worlds are completely opposite...but I can't shake the thought of him. I don't know if it was just the excitement of being on vacation or thinking about him and feeling for him is actually real. I wrote him after his email last week b/c I was going nuts thinking about him and he responded today and I wanted to cry. He agreed with me that it sucks we're so far apart, mentioned seeing each other sometime, he said for right now all we can do is have the memories and that he thinks about hte last time he saw me all the time, he said don't forget how much I miss you and think about you often. We spent maybe a total of 8 hours together...about 6 of them we spent alone, talking. We just clicked i guess.

all of this has been running thru my mind like crazy. Part of me thinks that my guard is up a lot more with Chris b/c he is right here, and letting myself go with him leaves me vunerable to getting hurt(not that I think he would but the thought of getting into any relationship right now scares me) while David is far away in Chicago so the chance of him hurting me is a lot less..i hope that makes sense. Anyway...i guess this is kind of a weird situation...I'm a firm believer in what was meant to be, will be. I just wish I knew what that was!! I don't want to rush into anything, but I don't want to miss out on anything either. I guess this isn't really a question or anything...it feels good to get it out though. My friends have been amazing, giving me advice the best they can...maybe someone here has gone thru something similar....I know all situations are different...I'll take a hug though

thanks for listening

HUGS

kim

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Mon, 09-08-2003 - 3:53pm
>>Anyway...i guess this is kind of a weird situation...I'm a firm believer in what was meant to be, will be. I just wish I knew what

**I will leave it to the "younger" generation to help you out here Kim. You live on a different planet to me, let alone in a different country lol! Things these days are just so different. I'll tell you what though I knew the instant I saw him that dh and I "would be", I even told my mother I had found the man I was going to marry!!! He left the very day after I had made that announcement to my Mum and I didn't see him for twelve months. He at that time was an auditor. 28 years later and I still say "I told you so!" Most of the time my instincts are spot on ;) Good Luck with whatever turns out. Hilary
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Mon, 09-08-2003 - 5:06pm
Only you can know what to do....maybe that's just to enjoy all right now.

Here's a big hug tho!!

Take care kiddo,

tracy

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Mon, 09-08-2003 - 8:14pm


Aww Kim,

I'm from such a different generation but often the same type of situations are universal. I'll leave it to your peers to help you out on this. My input is just to enjoy them both and not feel pressured into making any decision you're not ready for. There's time and if it's meant to be it will happen. :)

~Golly
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Tue, 09-09-2003 - 12:03am


{{{Kim}}}

Oh my so much going on right now in your life .. All a good thing

Here's my two cents

The guy you met on vacation .. could be that someone special ..

However because of the distance all you can do is stay in touch and see how it plays out.

If it was meant to be .. it will work itself out .. otherwise ..

Now with this guy Chris here .. basically the same thing ..

If it is meant to be .. it will be you know

Just take it all slowly .. and most importantly have fun

HTH

Take care hon :)

~Hugs~

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Tue, 09-09-2003 - 9:08am
Hey there, Kim ~ A BIG BIG hug from me, too:)

My 2 cents worth, is to not *fret* over this. As I recall, you just got out of a

somewhat long term relationship when you joined this board. Just enjoy and be

flattered that you have TWO guys interested in you!! No need to think about

*commitments* at this point. JUST HAVE FUN !!!!

* stel *

* Stel *

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Tue, 09-09-2003 - 9:50am
*My 2 cents worth, is to not *fret* over this. As I recall, you just got out of a

somewhat long term relationship when you joined this board. Just enjoy and be

flattered that you have TWO guys interested in you!! No need to think about

*commitments* at this point. JUST HAVE FUN !!!! *

Coming from the generation everyone here keeps mentioning (wink,wink) I think Stel is right. Keep seeing Chris if he's someone you're interested in and stay in touch with David. Your heart will lead you where it should. I have always found that the best things happen when you aren't looking so try not to over analyze anything. The reality of the situation is you wouldn't want David to miss out on any experiences at college pining away over someone that is so far away, would you? As I recall from your profile you wish you had opened up to all those college experiences. So let him run wild, talk every so often and you enjoy Chris's company. Let the chips fall where they may and for God's sake HAVE FUN!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Tue, 09-09-2003 - 12:04pm
aww sliver...SUUUUUCH a good point! Thank you!!!

And thanks to everyone for listening. I know I just have to chill and be patient...but it's hard...LOL!!

HUGS

kim :)