I did not fall off the planet
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I did not fall off the planet
| Mon, 09-15-2003 - 1:23pm |
I have been busy. Working on dh truck it needed a new motor. big job him with his healing hernia. As usual asked friends for help but none available so it was just me and him working on it. Then the van broke down with all of us in it (all four kids) had to get towed home. We fixed it first thing sun morn. it needed a fuel pump that was fun cuz you must remove the gas tank to get to it. And it costs $100.00 Then his ex flips out when we take his kids home. I swear that woman cant be happy at all. And when she is unhappy she spreads it around really good. Saying he can see the kids anymore cuz she does not like me. Tyring to instigate a fight screaming and thorwing a fit. Some times I feel like this relationship is doomed due to this crap. No matter what I feel like it is my fault. If I leave him he can see his kids but cant be with me = my fault If I stay he cant see them = my fault. I am so confused and he is raging mad and wont talk about it. I think I have alot of thinking to do. I do love him and dont want to leave but want to do the right thing for him. Any thoughts?? I am dumbfounded right now.~Mary~

Good to see you, you've been missed!
Sounds like a terrible weekend with the car/truck having to be fixed. Hope dh is starting to feel better.
First, it wasn't anyone's fault because the car broke down if his ex yells and screams so don't take it personally. I'm assuming she was mad because you all were late with the kids because of the breakdown. Some people throw in every grievance when they're arguing (which of course doesn't help) and she may have done that.
Only YOU have control over your thoughts hon. You own them and can keep/change them so don't feel guilty.
So while you're thinking, do think about what is the right thing for YOU, k? kmho
HTH :)
~Golly
But geez.....sorry the ex is causing such chaos in your life right now.
Hopefully, this latest will all blow over.
Listen to Golly...good advice.
Always know that you are welcome here to vent & such.
Are you still keeping your quit? (the cigs?)
If so, that in itself is something for YOU to feel GOOD about!
* stel *
* Stel *
**Mary, you know that isn't true and I am sure there are courts that decide that kind of thing. Those are "her" words. It is in no way your "fault", the history was/is there, you were not a part of it, you are just living the consequences of it.
>> I do love him and dont want to leave
**In most cases I would say this has to be the bottom line and absolutely no-one can make this kind of decision for you Mary. It may be time to think of yourself first and how long you want to keep living like this. You have been miserable and stressed for months. Almost as long as I have been here. When you can look into your own heart and truely believe that you do still love this man, then it will time to turn towards him and rationally express your feelings, to draw strength from each other and let your love make the two of you stronger so that you can deal with "now" and move on. Good Luck Mary, my thoughts are with you. Hilary
xoxo,
tracy
"Mel on Wheels"
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