I had a hole in my pocket!

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I had a hole in my pocket!
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Mon, 09-22-2003 - 11:21am
and you all slipped through and my roommate went to her parents house(:(

I was fine Saturday...spent 6 hours in the saddle in a cow clinic (oohhh my legs are sore) then went to the Draft Horse Classic that night...but Sunday....I only moved a little rock...my weeding intentions were dashed by my friend coming over saying she just did hers and that I should wait till the first rain...too hard to pick. So I got bored... wasn't thinking...AT ALL (:( The patch is going back on tomorrow.

~~~ Mae~~~
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Mon, 09-22-2003 - 5:40pm
Gosh Mae, when I was quitting, No WAY did I not think, , , NOT SMOKING was ALL I thought about. . . . it was THAT important.

Mae, you need to understand....SOme suffering at first IS involved here. I get the feeling that the first sign of discomfort comes along, you change your mind. There will be MUCH MORE discomfort if this smoking causes any one of the cancers or heart problems that go hand in hand with smoking.

Mae- - make yourself a list of WHY you want to quit NOW. . . .

Stel is right - - when you slip, you need to get right back....this saying I slipped, I will try again tomorrow - - WHAT IS THAT?? - - - how about now?? Why wait - - where are these cigarettes COMIng FROM??

Mae, darlin, I'm sorry if I sound gruff - - I want you to get OVER this...I'm very selfish and I want you to stop smoking NOW. I want so much for you to experience the thrill of taking charge and STOPPING that horrible, nasty NIC!!!!

Whatever it takes. Mae, you can quit and will quit when you want to. I just want you to want to before something happens that causes Real damage to your health.

You just give the holler and you know we are ALL behind you and ready to help in any way.

Take good care hun,

~~tracy

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Mon, 09-22-2003 - 5:41pm
>>they say it takes the *average* person 6-8 tries before they make the final quit. The less time you wait in between 'slips', the better

**Yep that's what they say .. exactly right :)

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Mon, 09-22-2003 - 8:59pm
Yes,Mae--where ARE these cigs coming from???( via tracy!!)

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Tue, 09-23-2003 - 4:11pm
>>>Gosh Mae, when I was quitting, No WAY did I not think, , , NOT SMOKING was ALL I thought about. . . . it was THAT important.

>>>Mae, you need to understand....SOme suffering at first IS involved here. I get the feeling that the first sign of discomfort comes along, you change your mind. There will be MUCH MORE discomfort if this smoking causes any one of the cancers or heart problems that go hand in hand with smoking.

I know, I know...I'm an idiot! I had a bad bout with myself that day and instead of thinking positively, I didn't think at ALL!


>>>Mae- - make yourself a list of WHY you want to quit NOW. . . .

Kay...

I want to be healthy

I want to lose weight (don't have the stamina to do a steady workout now (:((

I want my teeth to be white

I don't want to cause a fire down at the barn with a stupid butt

I want to win this battle with my self esteem....which I believe is the SOLE evil in my failures at quiting...


>>>Stel is right - - when you slip, you need to get right back....this saying I slipped, I will try again tomorrow - - WHAT IS THAT?? - - - how about now?? Why wait - - where are these cigarettes COMIng FROM??

I'm sorry...but I had to giggle...you are right...and ummmm....they're coming from the store (:(


>>>Mae, darlin, I'm sorry if I sound gruff - - I want you to get OVER this...I'm very selfish and I want you to stop smoking NOW. I want so much for you to experience the thrill of taking charge and STOPPING that horrible, nasty NIC!!!!

You are NOT gruff...I NEED to kicked in the "you know what" evidently more than once a day...Your posts are very much needed by me Tracy!!!


xoxoxo Mae

~~~ Mae~~~
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Tue, 09-23-2003 - 5:32pm
Oh Mae. . . I wish I could just be your cigarette body-guard!(vbg)

Quitting smoking is a full time job in the beginning. It won't Always be, but for me in the beginning it required TOTAL concentration. To "not think" will not work. You MUST think about it and do substitutions. You talk about that mocha and cig. You CANNOT do that anymore, so think about something that you can exchange for that "moment". It will be tough. Prepare to be unhappy about that. For me there were very 'unhappy' moments when I realized there was no more smoking in my life. Nobody told me not to smoke. I just came to a point in my life where I was too afraid of what might happen and I hated myself so much that the "butt" controlled my every waking hour....I HAD TO QUIT. I was miserable. I felt like I had been dealt a bad deal that I HAD to quit. I LIKED smoking. I STILL like smoking - - but I don't. There are some things that whether I like it or not I just can not do anymore because they are dangerous. I will no longer risk my health for the cig. I had dreams of waking up and finding some ugly mouth cancer that had to be cut out and I'd never be able to even eat food and would have to speak thru a micro-phone connected to my throat. Really. I am a chicken. No WAY could I ever handle the stuff that "might" happen if I continued. . . if I thought quitting was hard, THAT would be 100 times harder to deal with. And I wasn't going to push it and see if I could 'escape' That horror. And, the thing that drove me most of all was hating the fact that I was not in control - I felt COMpelled to light that cig and smoke 3 or 4 before I even Thought about what I'd do that day. I could never even GET to quit because I had to have a cig to think about it.

This is HARD work Mae. If this is your war, you had better get some good Generals in there to prepare a good plan. You must COMMIT. To YOU, not to us. YOU are the only one that counts here....no matter how much Stel or Hugs or Golly or Hilary or ANYBody wants you to quit - - you are the one that must want it EVEN more. You are the one that must drag your but thru the muck and do it. It is a killer, this war. . . but you can win it. Stop sabotaging. Take charge. Want this MORE than the amount it might hurt for a while, because on the other side of that hurt is glory. And you deserve that glory.

xoxo,

tracy





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Tue, 09-23-2003 - 6:22pm
Holy SMOKES !!! I think that is your most powerful *counseling* job yet:)

Good job, Tracy. I think you've missed your calling. Think your town

is big enough to start a Nicotine Anonymous group? You'd be a fantastic

leader.

xoxo stel





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Edited 9/23/2003 6:23:16 PM ET by stel2002

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Tue, 09-23-2003 - 6:42pm

{{Tracy}},


Thank you for so eloquently sharing with Mae.
And yes, Stel is so right, you'd make a fantastic counselor.
I see you in a hospital, sharing so generously what you've learned and experienced.


Mae hon, we're all rooting for ya!
~Golly


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Tue, 09-23-2003 - 7:26pm
Aw, thank you and Golly for the nice words.

I'm afraid I'd be a lousy counselor tho cause I'm too personal. I'd be going home with each person and being their personal 'babysitter'.(vbg)

Here's the thing....I want Mae to quit of course, But, I am concerned that if Mae doesn't give it a serious commitment, then each time she kind of tries to quit, and has trouble and stops the quit, , I'm thinking that then this thought builds up that "I CanT quit", see, it never worked before.." that kind of thing. I know it takes lots of tries to get it right. I tried maybe 4 or 5 times before. This is just such a hard thing to get going...but, ONCE it gets going, watch out! I Completely believe that each day's success builds and that THat is what gets us thru.

So, Mae, if your listening, you quit when you are fully prepared. Don't go halfheartedly along. Maybe in the beginning, don't even think about a real quit. Maybe just say, I won't smoke till Friday. I know for me long term thinking was totally out of the question.

But, I'm sorry if I made Mae feel bad. I was kind of mean and I would hate to have somebody be mean to me. I care about Mae and want her to find happiness with herself and I got carried away.

HUgs,

tracy



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Wed, 09-24-2003 - 10:55am
Tracy!!!!!!! Don't you EVER feel bad about what you post to me!!!! You Don't make me feel bad....*I* make me feel bad!!!!!!! I KNOW what I SHOULD do, and it's making me mad that I'm not doing it...

You are an absolute angel!! Nothing you could say could change that! (;)

Now...You don't really want to hear this, but I need to tell you anyway....I've lost it...I need to get back the desire to quit. You are right...no half hearted tries. Help me out here... My goal is to quit next Monday...So you have your work cut out for you. I'm going to go back and print all your posts to me and read them every morning. For some reason, my self esteem has gone straight to h*ll. Nothing triggered it, except that I didn't quit.

Gotta get to work...Love ya hon!

~~~ Mae~~~
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Wed, 09-24-2003 - 11:01am
You are one TOUGH lady, Mae....I gotta give you credit for that.

Many would have been 'turned off' by Tracy's honesty in helping you along.

I, myself, would have probably gotten my feelings hurt pretty bad.

But she's right, and I'm so glad you recognize that:)

Her posts are helping ME, too, to get off the nic gum...at least.

I admire you greatly for keeping trying. Do print off everything you can get your hands on. It WILL help!

Big hugs to {{{{MAE}}}}

* stel *

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