Antidepressants

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Registered: 04-04-2002
Antidepressants
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Fri, 10-03-2003 - 4:04pm
I posted this on the Menopause Board and do not like posting it here but would appreciate any comment you may like to make. It is long and probably not reading for the "younger generation"

****So, as I posted in Cheryl's quiz, menopause is getting on top of me again :(((( I am having trouble sleeping, am getting "down" more than I should be and can be completely irrational at times. I know, I know, all "normal"!! but I think I have actually messed up a friendship that was very important to me as a result, so

I have another friend (very brave lady!!) who suggested that an antidepresssant may be my answer. ;) I am an Aussie as most of you know and although the use of these medications is growing here it is not nearly to the stage where it is in the U.S. where, if you believe everything you read, just about everyone is taking them. In Australia the use of them is rising rapidly. As an Aussie I would be EMBARRASSED if anyone knew I was taking such a medication. I am actually serious here and have been around long enough for you to know that I am in no way making a judgement of any kind about anyone.

Even I feel that it means you are some kind of loser if you take them to a certain extent. I am using the word "loser" to refer to myself only in regards to possibly taking this kind of medication, accepting 100% that this is NOT a valid description of people who use this medication. I feel as if, if you take them , you can't cope with life or something. Well I guess that is obvious. I feel that they would take away your, how can I put it, your "reality". Like make life pass day to day and not really be "there" or something. Take the "edge" off you, your spontaneity, personality, dampen your sense of humour etc. I don't know. I have run into some girls at the golf club who confuse me with the way they react to things only to find out they are taking this kind of thing. Is it WORTH it.

My question is, without your stating if you take them or not, seriously I don't need or want to know if your opinion is based on personal experience, how do they make people feel, do they really work and can you easily go off them or is taking them a lifelong thing. Can this really be an answer. I know when I get through this time of life I should be back to my old self but it is taking so long. I am in control 99% of the time but it is a struggle some days and like I said, I know I have messed up a very special friendship, so am thinking it may be time to seek some other help. Thanks. ****

Sorry, this Aussie will return to her old happy go lucky self very soon I am sure. Hilary



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Fri, 10-03-2003 - 10:10pm
My question is, without your stating if you take them or not, seriously I don't need or want to know if your opinion is based on personal experience, how do they make people feel, do they really work and can you easily go off them or is taking them a lifelong thing. Can this really be an answer
Hey Hilary,
I think they can be very helpful.
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Fri, 10-03-2003 - 11:04pm
HEY!! we tre both crazy!1But I am on drugs-what is your excuse?? truth be told--they DO work!!! Mel

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Sat, 10-04-2003 - 3:19pm
Thanks Hugs, I think I have decided to see my doctor in the next couple of weeks. I actually found the courage to talk to dh last night and his reply was "Well, you know Tony is just a short walk up the road" He has been my doctor for 15 years. In some ways I would rather find a stranger but that would be stupid I know. If Danny was honest enough to say I should at least go and talk about it then I will. The next week or so are very busy so, but then this problem isn't like email. I have plenty of time to "think" before I say or do anything . We'll see. AND you know what, it is no-one's business but mine, but of course ;) I will tell on the Board.

I know we love newbies here and welcome everyone but this Aussie will NOT be recommending this Board to anyone she KNOWS!!!! HA!!! I definitely promote iVillage though ;) just not my "home away from home". Hilary

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Sat, 10-04-2003 - 3:23pm
HEY!! we tre both crazy!1But I am on drugs-what is your excuse?? truth be told--they DO work!!!

***YOU SCARE ME TO DEATH!!!!!! and here I was thinking this was a good idea. They obviously make Mel quiet, in conrol and boring!!! NOT!! Like I said you KILL me.

This Board shall certainly be tested if they do the same to me as they do to you!! HA! Never dull right! Thanks, you are seriously revolting ;) Hilary



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Sat, 10-04-2003 - 4:01pm

Oh Hilary - - I think your idea to talk about this with your doc is a great idea.


I repeat - - there is NO SHAME in seeking help.

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Sat, 10-04-2003 - 5:59pm
>>I actually found the courage to talk to dh last night and his reply was "Well, you know Tony is just a short walk up the road" He has been my doctor for 15 years. In some ways I would rather find a stranger but that would be stupid I know. If Danny was honest enough to say I should at least go and talk about it then I will.
**Sounds like a plan Hil. In my opinion life is way too short to spend part of it
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Sat, 10-04-2003 - 7:00pm

I think I have decided to see my doctor in the next couple of weeks. I actually found the courage to talk to dh last night and his reply was "Well, you know Tony is just a short walk up the road"
This is good Hilary,
You should speak with your doctor and feel lucky you've had the same one for so long.
Glad to hear you told your DH as well.


I know we love newbies here and welcome everyone but this Aussie will NOT be recommending this Board to anyone she KNOWS
Well not quite sure I agree with this as people you know care and that would only mean more support ..
I plan to tell *everyone* I know about this board because it's so great

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Sat, 10-04-2003 - 9:55pm
HILARY!! I have known Stella ALL of my life ( way b-4 I was on any (err legal) DRUGS!!) I have ALWAYS been this way--she has known me since I was 10 years old!!!!I have never been quiet or shy,,never will be--seriously..the meds have done NOTHING to change what is my PERSONALITY!!! xoxo mel

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Sun, 10-05-2003 - 6:23pm

Oh boy Hilary do I know what you mean~


Sometimes I feel like my birth control pills make me act "unlike myself" due to the hormones in them. I went off of them for a month & felt like a totally different person in that

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Registered: 10-01-2002
Sun, 10-05-2003 - 6:35pm
Hilary, Just be Strong Don't let them get you down!!!

I know YOU will be Just Fine when it comes to a End...hang onto that Smile...

My Blessing are to YOU...

wren

ps I don't care what others think of me I know I am as good as the rest... and better than some....LOL

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