A Year Ago Today........
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| Fri, 10-10-2003 - 7:09am |
after her dx.
The last 6 days of her life were spent in the hospital with a complete breathing mask.
I visited with her twice during that time, not counting the last time when she had
slipped into a coma.
I tell myself to NEVER forget how she looked lying in that bed, having to use
the mask to breathe, even tho she hated it so. She was my touchstone, and is now
my inspiration to wake up each morning and be happy I am alive...and NOT coughing.
I may slip with the cigs, from time to time, but I no longer have that terrible cough
that we BOTH had. She was a smoker, too.
A year ago today, I will also consider my anniversary for *meeting* Hugs & Golly.
You see, Mel was staying with me, and she's the one that taught me about all this
board *stuff*. I am grateful and feel truly blessed to have met so many wonderful
folks over the course of this year, and hope to maintain some of the friendships
for a long, long time.
Much love and enjoy your day:)
* stel *
Edited 10/10/2003 7:18:10 AM ET by stel2002

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Her Mom had asked that Jimmy meet her at Sal's house this morning for a couple of handy-man jobs. I took the album (just 36 pics, but good ones), and went to visit the Mom while dh worked. We were there about 3 hrs. And I think it was the very best thing I could have done today ~~ keeping her Mom company while dh did his thing. (Sal's dh is NOT good mechanically )
It was a very rainy morning from 5:00 on...but as we left around 2:00, the rain had stopped, and when we walked out the door, the sun peeked through the clouds.
Golly, I'm like you in that I believe Sally is looking down on her family (2 teens & dh) & those closest she left behind. And so, I believe the sun coming out was her *sign* that she was happy we had helped out around her home and kept her Mom company. It made me feel good ~ just like Mr. Bill's poem:)
So...right now I am smiling, and will shortly go out on the deck and 'throw back' a few, in her memory. She would like that:)
Thanks again for being here for me. Stel
* Stel *
"Mel on Wheels"
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"Mel on Wheels"
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I saw this post this morming but decided not to reply til I had more time
Today I am sure hold many emotions for you.
I don't think you could have spent it any better doing anything else :)
"Mel on Wheels"
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Awwwwww, Groover, I'm just soooooo glad you & Michelle were here with me:) We gave her the bestest 3 nite wake any gal could ask for!!!
Jimmy just came in & saw MY candles lit, as I had my own private concert of "our" songs, and just shook his head:) Heck, I NEVER get to listen to *my* music. And besides, for the sake of the board, it was good exercise.....dancin' around. And God knows, I can't sing worth a flip. But whoever is still here with us on this, Mel is THE BEST singer!!
Anyhoo, if I do this right, I had to look up GOODBYE MY FRIEND on google, to get all the words. I can't believe it was written by Karla Bonoff!!! She is great, too...I have one of her CDs....actually, probably her ONLY CD:)
Here it is, and am glad you saw this. xoxoxoxoxoxo stel
Can't do the link....here are the words....GREAT SONG for tonite, too:)
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Goodbye My Friend
written by Karla Bonoff
recorded by Linda Rondstadt
on the album "Cry Like a Rainstorm, Howl Like the Wind"
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Oh we never know where life will take us
I know it's just a ride on the wheel.
And we never know when death will shake us
And we wonder how it will feel.
So goodbye my friend
I know I'll never see you again
But the time together through all the years
Will take away these tears
It's okay now...
Goodbye my friend.
I see a lot of things that make me crazy
And I guess I held on to you
I could've run away and left
Well, maybe...
But it wasn't time, we both knew
So goodbye, my friend
I know I'll never see you again
But the love you gave me through all the years
Will take away these tears
It's okay now...
Goodbye my friend
Life's so fragile and love's so pure
We can't hold on but we try
We watch how quickly it disappears
And we never know why
But I'm okay now
Goodbye my friend.
I can go now
Goodbye my friend.
* Stel *
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DITTO, my friend. Even tho I haven't been TOTALLY successful w/my quit, I could
NEVER, EVER have made it this far without you. I HOPE Sally is proud.
I really and truly BELIEVE that sunshine when we left her house was a *sign.*
It went away fairly quickly, and never shone again.
As a postcript to anyone who is still following this thread , Sal's dh called me
late this afternoon to tell me their daughter had made the basketball team at her
middle school. She's played league ball for years, but as you've learned from Mel,
playing for the school is totally different. So......I KNOW Sal is sooo proud, and
for her ds, I am so thankful she had something to be HAPPY about today:)
Thanks for being you, Hugs........xoxoxoxo Stel
* stel *
* Stel *
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