A Breakthrough?
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| Tue, 09-22-2009 - 9:17am |
I'm very concerned about my husband's weight and health. He has had several knee surgeries. He was up over 300 pounds. He almost didn't pass his DOT physical last year because his blood pressure was so high. (If he doesn't pass that physical he isn't allowed to work by law. He is a truck driver.) He carries ALL his weight in his stomach. I'm not kidding or trying to be mean but he looks like he is about 10 months pregnant. And he is only 5"10'. I've lost a lot of weight and I feel better. I feel better eating better foods and I've practically begged him to try and lose weight with me. I've asked him to work out with me. I've asked him to have a weight loss contest with me. All of which he refuses to do. I had hoped my efforts would encourage him to see that we can BOTH lose weight, be healthier, live longer for the kids, and a set a good example for them in the process. He won't do it.
So we were on the phone yesterday morning (we talk on and off all day) and I told him what a bad week I had last week. We ate out several times and with my metabolism, I just can't. Plus, having eaten crap food my severe heart burn was back. I haven't had to take my medication for heartburn in months, and I had to take it 3 or 4 times in the past week. I was emphasizing to him that we absolutely could not eat out anymore. He then tells me what his weight was when he weighed that morning and he was encouraged. He started asking me about how much I've lost and what my goal weight is all of which we've discussed before so I'm confused. He then suggests a weight loss competition to see who can reach their goal weight first. I was shocked. I readily agreed. When he got home last night I tried to talk to him about it again and he didn't seem as interested but we'll see. Maybe he is ready?

Hi Dizzfrizz.
From reading this about your husband being 300 + pounds and thinking about you and your working out and portioning, it sounds like he might be on the verge of wanting to start something. Hopefully soon. It is his decision to start though. We all do not like to start when someone tells us...I guess that is the way we are...except me. Although I was told to start, I was just asked if I do exercise. I kept saying no. Part of me did not like that word, but it is that. Although working out sounds better. When my doctor wrote down that doing exercise and reducing weight would really help me, I did start something at least.
In other words, Dizzfrizz. ...it is his decision to start. Just keep doing what you are doing. Even working out near him.
Well sounds like he is in the *thinking* stages,
So that is great ..
Perhaps you could ask him about
There are alot of steps involved before jumping fully on the healthy living bandwagon.
Different people process them at different rates.
The fact that he even opened a dialog is very promising.
Don't nag - just be there and be open.
My DH went through a similar phase last year.
He finally "offered" to buy me a new car if he couldn't finish the half marathon.
We did it - together
He found his motivation - he doesn't want car payments!!
When your DH finds his motivation - he'll get moving.......
Nadine - deenie1979