To the cradle robbers club members

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Sun, 06-27-2004 - 9:38pm
(Kim) thanks for welcoming me to the cradle robbers club. Since you brought it up, I have a problem that you may be able to help me with. The age difference between her and I is 17 years (when you get up off the floor I will continue...) It bothers me everyday. She says I look 15 years younger than I am, I know I act younger, but I certainly don't look THAT much younger. She looks older and acts older than her age. BUT, it is still an issue with us, well, with me, everyday. Will I ever get over it? It really causes us many problems because I feel like she would be better off with someone her own age. I have even tried breaking up with her over it several times. The biggest problem is I love her. She is absolutely irresistable and seems to love me very much too. But what is going to happen when I fall apart and she is still young? What if we do last and then I get old and die, I don't want her to be alone. She said I make her happier than she has ever been in her life and quit trying to get rid of her. It's not that I want to "get rid of her", I just want her to be with the best person she can be with so she will be happy. She says I am that person. What do I do, what my mind says or my heart?

Sandr

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Sun, 06-27-2004 - 10:13pm
Hiya Sandralea...I WAS the reigning Queen of Cradle Robbers but have been replaced recently ~sigh~ I am 46 and Lise is 31

just yesterday at the doctors I was asked if Lise was my daughter....and now with a kid on the way i can already hear the grandmother comments.

Lise has promised to change my diaper when i need it and soak my dentures...Mayhaps when you and I kick the bucket our lovers can get together? LOL just kidding.

Go with your heart woman....go with your heart!!!

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Sun, 06-27-2004 - 10:23pm

Many years ago, a wonderful woman broke my heart.

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Registered: 09-07-2003
Mon, 06-28-2004 - 12:02am
I know several couples with age differences of 15 to 20 years and they are very happy. Personally I think being practical is overrated, it can give you a sense of security but that is not the same as joy. There are no guarantees in life for any couple of any age difference, go with your heart :)

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Registered: 02-15-2004
Mon, 06-28-2004 - 1:09am
Thank you for the inspiration, I am sorry to have de-throned you! (really, I am !) I do not want to be the new Queen.... I will let her know we have arranged a replacement when I go!

Sandr

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Mon, 06-28-2004 - 1:16am
I pray that doesn't happen to us, I would never want to hurt her. I have made her cry several times over this. When I try and end things she just won't stay away. Since I don't REALLY want to end our relationship I always take her back. I promised her I wouldn't put her through it again. In the back of my mind I am afraid she will leave me one day - when she wakes up and notices I am old. I don't think I could stand it. Then I remember that having her in my life, even for a little while, is better than never having her at all. I am sorry your relationship didn't work out. But I am glad you found someone you can be happy with. Sandra

Sandr

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Mon, 06-28-2004 - 1:20am
Thank you so much, it is so nice to have support from you all. Funny, I lost my best friend over this. She was one of 3 people I came out to, and I had to quit speaking to her because she was so angry over the age difference. She has been very cruel, I couldn't take it anymore. Your post means alot to me, thanks. Sandra

Sandr

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Registered: 12-16-2003
Mon, 06-28-2004 - 7:33am

Sandra,


Your post could have been written about me and my significant other.

Kim
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Registered: 03-25-2003
Mon, 06-28-2004 - 8:27am
*Hands Kim a Pencil*....great post!

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Mon, 06-28-2004 - 9:36am

The person I'm happy with right now is me.

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Mon, 06-28-2004 - 9:41am

Oh my!

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