She loves me
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| Thu, 07-01-2004 - 11:02am |
But, a week ago she told me that she loves me. She told me that the more time she spends with me, the more she misses me when I'm gone. The things that have irritated my previous girlfriends (like my humor and vagueness) are what she actually loves about me. She does and says everything right. She now goes out of her way to tell me and reassure me of what she is thinking/feeling... and has told me several times that she loves me--it wasn't just a one-time thing.
The problem: like a dumb *ss, I have said nothing in return. I am not a person that freely says "I love you". I have enormous difficulties expressing those feelings that make me feel vulnerable. Even though she knows this... I can't help but think she is disappointed everytime she tells me that she loves me and I don't say it back.
My exact feelings for her are growing stronger each day. I am very comfortable with her. I love spending time with her. (She and my daughter absolutely LOVE each other!) And, our sex life is phenomenal. {blushes} I miss her when we aren't together and drive myself crazy in anticipation when we are about to meet up. Still, I don't think that I am at the point where I can say that I love her .. or am in love with her.
I don't know. I guess I am seeking some advice... even some reassurance from you all. What do you all think?

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I say ...Go with your heart !
Hugs,
If you cant say it yet,, can you start with other ways?
*hugs ~ Caly
Jenny, I was not the first to say the L word in my relationship.
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Ah Jenny, what a tough spot you're in. You can't say the *L* word until you are ready, but at the same time, it can be so hard to be in K's place, loving someone so much who you know cares for you, but just can't say those words. I think the best thing, as a few of the others mentioned, is to sit and talk with her and just explain that you care for her very deeply and that you can see yourself falling in love with her, but you're just not there yet. She will understand because she loves you, and love is worth waiting for. When she says she loves you, try saying something along the lines of you know she does and that means so much to you and makes you feel very lucky (or blessed, or happy, or something...) That way she will truly feel that her love is appreciated and reciprocated and makes it a lot easier to wait for those words. And when the day comes that you do really and truly and completely love her, and you can say the words to her, say them often and with feeling, that definitely makes it worth the wait :)
Hugs!
~C
I'm right there with you on the "L" word. I haven't said it to anyone outside my immediate family in the past 2 years or so.
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I know all the feelings you described and to be sure for me they don't always mean it's love, the great sex..The anticipation... the missing of that person.....
I also do not... did not... give the words "I love you" casualy or quickly.....I think (Love).. (being in love )and (just loving someone) grows over time of learning all about a person....
Some people also I understand have
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