Guess I could use a Hug

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Guess I could use a Hug
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Sat, 07-17-2004 - 7:18pm

Its over now,, the phone call is done but the implications will now last a lifetime.


She didnt call me, so finally this afternoon I called her because I couldnt stand it.. I knew she knew of my decision because she got the letter but I wasnt going to let the "elephant be in the room" so to speak, and not try to at least keep our relationship alive.. Instead she ate me alive.


When I called I said I hadnt heard from her yet so I thought I would call since I had time to talk. She told me she hadnt planned on calling me at all since she no longer had anything to say to me.

*hugs ~ Caly

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Sat, 07-17-2004 - 7:40pm

Caly.

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Sat, 07-17-2004 - 8:06pm
Caly,

I'm so sorry this has happened! Trust me, you are a wonderful person. You and CAT are the only two members of this board who have always told me positive things when I've been down. It takes a good hearted person to lift someone up when they are down. You, Caly, are a good hearted person.

I've never came out, so I cannot give you advice on how to deal with people's reactions. I can understand how someone can make you feel that year's of hardwork to become a stronger person can seem to be stripped away by careless and hurtful words. However, in the moment it seems that way. But, you will grow from this. It will not strip away the therapy you've had. She hurt you. Basically what you are feeling right now is the emotional pain from her actions. You are human and you have a right to feel hurt. Don't feel bad about yourself because it hurts. You have a right to cry and feel emotions. But, don't let her words spewed during a careless moment make you question yourself as a person. Becuase, her words were those of fear of what she doesn't understand. It has no reflection on you as a person.

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Sat, 07-17-2004 - 8:11pm

Hugs Caly.

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Sat, 07-17-2004 - 8:24pm

{{{{{{{{{{{{CALY}}}}}}}}}}}}


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Sat, 07-17-2004 - 8:32pm
I'm sending a hug your way, Caly.

 

 

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Sat, 07-17-2004 - 9:17pm
Caly...my mother's reaction was very similar. I had ruined my childrens life, she wanted to see my ex..not me, and I was "REPULSIVE" I will never forget her using that word. Caly...she did come around and now LOVES lise. Just a couple of weeks ago...she said she needed to talk...she burst into tears and said..." I can't believe how awfully I treated you and Lise when you first told me....it has been eating me alive and I haven't been able to sleep for months thinking of what I had called you" She BEGGED me for forgiveness. Caly....e-mail me anytime....my mother is similar in age to yours I bet (early 80's?) I have so much I could say about this....surfice it to say for now....2 plus years later...she proudly introduces Lise as her daughter in law.

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Sat, 07-17-2004 - 9:28pm
((((((((Caly)))))))) I will be back to post to your post..
Warm caring(((((Hugs))))"CAT"

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Sat, 07-17-2004 - 11:14pm

(((((((Caly))))))))So very sorry about how things went between you and your Mom....
You did the right thing in writing it and sending it as that way at least it got heard in some way what you felt and wanted..You made a big step in doing that..You would have been burdened carrying that around and hiding what your life was about.. Some people can carry that and go on for years ...some can't...It can be a


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Sun, 07-18-2004 - 1:06am


{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Caly}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

 


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Sun, 07-18-2004 - 8:53am
I am so incredibly proud of you, my love!!!!!!!! I can't say it enough. YOUR happiness is what counts, and you're gonna have it for the rest of your life!!!!! Love you, sweetness! *Kiss
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