Is the cat out of the bag? Or...

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Is the cat out of the bag? Or...
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Tue, 07-20-2004 - 8:27pm
Is the cat out of the bag, or am I just paranoid?

That is the question of the day for me.

Let's roll back to yesterday morning... I notice that one class I badly need for fall early registration at the community college is full. However, it has exceeded its section capacity. So, I emailed my academic advisor to inquire what I might do to get in on this class.

Normally, my academic advisor is a very friendly lady. I had her for my Introduction to Networking class. Since then, she's been very friendly to me. She's even shared European trip pictures with me. Usually, in email, she's friendly as well. But, yesterday she displayed a dark color I had never seen before. She was short and almost mean spirited in her email. "That's a question for 'so and so'." She barked in her email.

Today, I had a meeting with her to get registered. Immediately during the meeting, she made a comment that she didn't know all the answers. I found that odd. I told her that it was fine, trying to be reassuring. She glared at me in ways I had never seen her glare. Almost a glare of what are you sitting in front of me-an alien, strange thing sort of glare. I felt very uncomfortable. I tried to focus away from her onto her massive collection of books stacked behind her. I even followed a candle's smoke trail far off to the left of her trying desparately to breathe in the scent, hoping to ease my uncomfortableness.

I can only guess as to what her reasons were for her actions. However, I can only wonder if the cat is out of the bag? I've seen reactions like this before from people who find out someone is gay. I've been on the outside looking at the situation from both parties- the gay person being treated differently and the person who is homophobic. I don't have proof. I have no way of truly knowing. All I know is that she acted so differently towards me, and I cannot explain why.

Thanks for letting me share.

Take care,

rj

rj

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Tue, 07-20-2004 - 8:39pm

hi Rj!


Its soo hard to say what could be bothering her hun, since you dont know what goes on in her personal life or even her professional life outside of the contact you have had with her. So whose to say she just really isnt having a bad time in her life right now and unfortunately carried it over to her job. It happens.


I would just hate to see you jump to conclusions for something that may not be true,

*hugs ~ Caly

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Tue, 07-20-2004 - 9:13pm
Hi ....RJ, Hon..
Aren't

 C  >^. A .

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Tue, 07-20-2004 - 9:20pm
Hey Caly:

I'm not going to attempt to read her mind. However, the experience was sooo uncomfortable that I just wanted to share what was on my mind. I don't see this lady often, so it's not a big deal, it was just a bit unsettling to me for her to act so differently.

Thanks for your post.

Take care,

rj

rj

Franco Harris of the Pittsburgh Steelers in 197

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Tue, 07-20-2004 - 9:21pm
I'm thinking pms. I've never really had pms myself, but I've been around enough women see how it can change a perfectly sane person into a beast. Yeah, I've seen some pretty scary personality swings triggered by this cycle.

She may also be having a bad day.

(((hugs)))


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Tue, 07-20-2004 - 9:27pm
LOL Sadie!!! That is too funny. I never thought of that one. hehe!! :)

OMG! She was having all kinds of scary looks on her face. I thought to myself...should I smile, not look at her, run for the door, or just say, "You know, I don't need to early register after all!!" LOL

Thanks for the big laugh Sadie!

:) rj

rj

Franco Harris of the Pittsburgh Steelers in 197

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Tue, 07-20-2004 - 9:28pm
Hey CAT! I knew when posting this that you would comment on the "cat out of the bag." LOL

You cuttie you... :)

Anyway, thanks for your support. You are once again the All American Sweetheart.

Oh, the haircut probably doesn't help matters. I have about a butch of a cut right now as you can get. LOL

rj

rj

Franco Harris of the Pittsburgh Steelers in 197

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Tue, 07-20-2004 - 10:03pm
Yeah and I bet it (The Cut) looks ~~`HOT!`

 C  >^. A .

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Tue, 07-20-2004 - 10:05pm


Well rj, it could be pms, she needs to get laid, or she wants you. It has to be one of the three. Maybe she found you irresistably cute. I mean, when I saw your picture of you with your hair cut, and the one with the white dress on, I said, "WOW!" I wouldn't know what to say to you if I met you in person myself.

So, don't feel bad. Sexy women are so irresistable, that one loses all sent of decoroum and speech. Hang in there and keep doing the right thing.

 


Hugs,


Sebastian


 


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Wed, 07-21-2004 - 3:38am
Hi rj,

I think she was passing gas in the

privacy of her office thinking she was getting away

with some much needed relief. That is when you walked

in and she was just mortified that you'd figure out

what she was up to and you know maybe look down at her or

something. So she was just trying to rush you out of her

office before things started wafting in your direction.

Your mention of the burning candle is what tipped me

off. It was probably an awkward moment for her at

the very least. Thus the pained look on her face. That

and the fact that she was probably having to hold back

her flatulant behavior as long as you were still in her

office. So... maybe just a case of bad timing.

(hugs) Laurie
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Wed, 07-21-2004 - 6:50am
Yes, I read your post in regard to my long hair. :) I actually like my short, short, short hair cut. LOL Thanks!

rj

rj

Franco Harris of the Pittsburgh Steelers in 197

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