Please, please, please.....

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-19-2003
Please, please, please.....
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Sun, 08-01-2004 - 1:01am

I hate to sound like a broken record but name calling is also in violation of the TOS.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 04-29-2003
Sun, 08-01-2004 - 11:02am
Generalizing anyone into a group, and then smearing that group is bigotry, or racism.

It's ugly, it's mean spirited, it's downright un-Ammurrican even!

I support the TOS and Pam on this 100%. Racism, bigotry, religious intolerance - these are the real enemies out there.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-29-2003
Sun, 08-01-2004 - 12:37pm
I Totally agree..
The Unhealthy, Unsavory, UnCaring, Unsensible,Unjustifiable,or whatever

 C  >^. A .

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-25-2004
Sun, 08-01-2004 - 1:12pm
With all do respect to everyone on this board, may I ask why this thread has even been begun?

I've seen this happen before on this board. Exploitation. It has happened to me personally. And, after the exploitive thread, then board members jump on the bandwagon. I call it the bandwagon effect. In the end, the person's post that is exploited gets hurt.

If we had a regular occurrence of someone posting racial and ethic slurs, I could understand. However, I think this person who inappropriately expressed herself did not do this intentionally. I would like to know why this matter wasn't handled quietly. It could have been. Instead, it has been handled like the news media handles subjects---blown way out of proportion.

I would like to ask each of you if you have NEVER said something inappropriately before when you are angry or hurt. If you haven't, then you can be first to cast the first stone.

I agree that racial and ethic slurs are awful. If this were done intentionally, it would be a different matter. But, I THOUGHT this board was for support. Not exploitation...”bandwagoning”...and beating someone up when they are hurting.

Have a heart.

Just my 2 cents.

Thanks for reading,

rj

rj

Franco Harris of the Pittsburgh Steelers in 197

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-25-2003
Sun, 08-01-2004 - 1:34pm
Hi rj. I also agree that this person was lashing out in anger, though the racial slur was inappropriate and nearly took my breath away when I read it...hopefully it will be an isolated incident, and I also fully believed that she would read pam's warning and come back to edit. I don't want to see her leave b/c of this...

Pam is looking out for this community, reminding everyone to keep a clear head when posting...Our TOS is pretty strict, and whether the case is isolated or not, we run the risk of losing this community everytime something like this happens.

xo


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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-19-2003
Sun, 08-01-2004 - 1:36pm

My dear RJ.

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Registered: 02-15-2004
Sun, 08-01-2004 - 1:37pm
RJ, thats nice of you to stick up for the person that made the racist comment. She probably feels very bad right now. But, what if no one said anything about her derrogatory comment? I think it is likey that it would have happened again, here or somewhere else. We all get mad, and we all feel hurt at times, but that is never an excuse to attack someones life choices. The sooner we all view this type of discrimination as wrong and accept eachother without labeling, the happier the world will be. It has to start somewhere, why not at this board where after its all said and done, everyone will forget it and move on....sandra

Sandr

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-29-2003
Sun, 08-01-2004 - 1:46pm
Hi (((RJ Hon))).. I agree with your feelings on the jumping on the bandwagon type thing and causing someone who had a slip of the tongue or

 C  >^. A .

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Registered: 03-24-2003
Sun, 08-01-2004 - 2:04pm
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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-19-2003
Sun, 08-01-2004 - 2:17pm

p.s.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-25-2004
Sun, 08-01-2004 - 2:27pm
I was making a point with my post not trying to start a quarrel. I was concerned about her feelings. I cannot speak for her, but I can say how I've felt in the past when this has happened to me. I was very concerned that she would be hurt like I've been. I know what it is like to be gay and have your only outlet be a computer. She may not be as sensitive as I. And, she may have other outlets as well.

My point was not to leave the post as is. I would suggest removing the entire thread or editing the individual post and sending her an email explaining why. I've had my entire post removed before with an email warning. I've not had an entire thread removed, so I don't know if that is possible. However, publically devoting a thread to someone's mistake, especially in the past when it has happened to me, is embarassing and humilating. I was concerned about her experiencing that. I didn't want her to experience the same pain I've felt.

rj

rj

Franco Harris of the Pittsburgh Steelers in 197

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