I have this theory...

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I have this theory...
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Tue, 08-03-2004 - 7:36am
I think I would get a lot more sleep if I was in NZ for the morning and then over there in the afternoon, because it would be night time and I could go to bed again..! (and if I was having a bad day, I could wake up and start it over again, lol!)

Has anyone perfected the teleporter thingee yet?

Last night I was off to bed at 11pm and Stefan decided he didnt have a clean uniform, so I had to sit up while it washed so I could put it in the dryer... and tonight I am cleaning multiple viruses off Nat's computer. She has the latest Nortons installed, updated with the latest virus patterns because I went to their website and checked - I have run the scan 4 times in the last 2 days, it turned up 2 instances of the w32.korgo.v virus but nothing else. I knew it wasnt right, something HAD to be here...so I went to trendmicro.com and ran housecall which returned with 20 instances of the BKDR BERBEW.I virus, 1 of the TROJ DELF.RA virus and 1 of the TROJ ALCHEMIC.A virus - all listed on Nortons website as being detected and removed by the latest pattern files.

I am about to go through the registry and manually delete the entries created by the viruses and am downloading PC Cillin for Nat so we dont go through this again. I have used PC-Cillin for the last 2 or 3 years - the only time I had a virus on my computer was when I used Nortons and according to the file properties had been on my system for 6 months without being detected and once again, Housecall picked it up!

Nat is so fed up with computer problems, sick kids, fighting kids... she is paranoid my son is going to kill one of her kids in their sleep- she went to the doctor today and is back on Xanax. Stupid thing is - her daughter attacked my son, he didnt fight back. He has only ever hurt her kids when provoked and he takes a LOT from them before he gets that mad. These days, everything that goes missing, they blame him. He got the blame for the computer viruses... I am feeling sorry for him. Except that he assaulted me the other day when I took his Xbox as a punishment for breaching his grounding which was a punishment for taking Stefan's things without asking... yada yada... I am wondering if he would be better off in a foster home for now.

I could go to bed, but I cant leave something once I start it until I have finished it. I am going to fix this darn thing if it takes me til 3am! I think she will owe me some computer time for that...! The Xanax makes her sleep so I will do as I please tomorrow- leave the coffee pot on for me!


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Fri, 08-06-2004 - 12:51am
thanks Pam. I am on the waiting list for subsidised housing but I have to wait for a house to become available. My situation hasnt been assessed as an emergency but it has been assessed as 'serious' so hopefully it wont be too much longer. Nat has a friend who has applied to leave her house and move to another, citing her babies health as a reason. If she gets a place before I do, she is going to tell her case worker (I have the same one) that I have been staying there off and on and they might just let me take over her house.

Nat is up and down about me moving. At times she looks forward to the extra space, and having her own space again but other times she gets really down and says she thinks she will have to move to her parents place in order to cope. I am not letting that get to me anymore. She will do what she feels she needs to do and I will do the same for myself.

I do know though, that I wont run out on her kids like their father did. We have all grown very close over the last 2 years and leaving them is the hardest thing about moving out. Especially as they have all come such a long way since having some consistent discipline without favouritism. I have talked to them all about it and they all do understand why I have to move out. Lets just hope its not too long now...

Hamish finially asked a girl out, he has had his eye on her for a few months now, has chatted with her friends online and found out all he wanted to know about her.. yesterday he finally got his answer- she is a year older than him and he didnt have high hopes, but she said yes. Today he asked if he could break his grounding to watch her play badminton after school, so I did a deal with him. I said he could, but he had to find his own way home - I wasnt coming back to pick him up. He agreed and now I am wishing I had asked him what time he thought that would be?!! lol. I am hopeless sometimes!!


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Fri, 08-06-2004 - 12:52am
My ex said he thinks H might have to go and live with him for a while- but I think my ex is part of the problem. He insisted for a long time that H was not his son. He works 12 hours a day, 6 days a week and on the 7th day he drinks himself stupid spending most of the money he earned... I believe H would end up in an even worse situation without having anyone at home to be accountable to. How would the x even know if he went to school? it is a very small town, a village even... and there is no future for him there.

He has had a stern warning this time and been told what his options will come to if this kind of behaviour continues. Maybe just a week or two with his father might be what he needs to realise that he has it all living here.


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Fri, 08-06-2004 - 1:22am

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