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Sun, 08-08-2004 - 11:12pm
Well I had the day planned.. Bought the boys an air conditioner.. Yes weather getting

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Sun, 08-08-2004 - 11:40pm
Oh God {{{{{{{{{CAT}}}}}}}}} I know, I know.....I am so sorry to hear about your youngest having sleeping problems now, on top of the anxiety. I wish with everything that I could help you with the legal stuff, like finding a lawyer pro bono...I can't seem to get any of them to return my calls so I'm starting to get extremely disheartened again. I will do anything I can for you though, just let me know if there's ANYTHING....

I saw sweetfeets for awhile last night, btw. We were playing some Monster Truck game on the xbox, making silly jokes and giggling uncontrollably. It really started to feel like old times...but all of a sudden he looked at me and said "thanks for remebering to bring the bean bag mom". (btw, I was visiting him at his dad's house last night, and this past Tuesday I took his bean bag out there that I still had at my apt. so he could have it there)I looked at him b/c his voice was different, and asked "why would I forget?"...he answered "You seem to forget me alot lately". Oh hell.....I can't even begin to describe the searing pain that shot through my chest at that moment

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Sun, 08-08-2004 - 11:53pm
((((((Hugs Sadie)))))) Thanks Hon.. I know your going through it also on your end with sweetfeets and yes I know your feeling of pain at his words(your sweetfeets) but he loves you although I know, it still hurts..
I would definately let ya know if there's anything you can do to help me Hon but for now your doing it just by listening and offering your ((hugs))) and geez hon I just know it's got to be hard on you too.. I know what you mean about being disillusioned because I have not and do not really know where to begin and I am still so kinda afraid of going up against it all because of past stuff with ex..
But my son really needs help.. I know this. I feel this.. Real deep.
My older one seems to be okay and things seem to be rollin off him so to speak ..
I keep telling them both I love them and telling youngest I am here and I love him and worry..
I do all I can on im with him and phone but am limited.. If only I could kick ex out of the pic somehow ***Sigh***..
Course you know that thought huh?..
Thanks Sadie for your (((hugs))))and offers..
Keep in touch Hon..
I know I need to e-mail you.."CAT"

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Mon, 08-09-2004 - 2:08am
((((((((((Cat)))))))))) this makes me so sad

anytime i read how ex is with you seeing your boys

funny .... he acts like he gave birth

i hurt for you Cat... i feel your hurt when you post

i am so sorry that things are like this

i will pray and sugar will pray

tonite and keep you in our thoughts and prayers

you are so precious and its evident you love your boys

hold on to that Cat ok

one day it will change and i hope and pray that day is soon ok

keeping you in my thoughts and on my heart too

hey please email me if you like ok

anytime...

i miss you

sorry i am not really around

3d life has been too hard to really be here but i do pop in and read at tiems

and i am glad i did tonite ok

Love You Cat ... thankful you are my friend

bless you and your precious boys and your best friend ( wink )

always your friend Tink

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Mon, 08-09-2004 - 2:27am
hugs to you cat,even though I don't have kids so ummm can't really understand but then again I kind of can see....it's kind of a main reason I lost chasity.In NC well she would ahve lost her two daughters(at the time 6 months and 2 year old ) if she had stayed with me on a perament basis and well the ex would have used it.He would have done anything to hurt her.

I do feel the fact that I got attached to two little girls while we were together ,took them trick or treating,etc ,etc that I ahve not seen in ?????3 or 4 years and well will never see again.Yet I still know it does not come close.What I hate seeing is people who want to with there kids ,when so many people could care less for there own and well they can't be.Wish I was a lawyer.I love legal things and would help you and sadie out...god bless you and if you are making the effort and trying they do know it.....they know mom loves them..sorry for all you are dealing with.I am trying to be around me,if you need me or anything email me.....take care lady,Jo
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Mon, 08-09-2004 - 4:56am

God, Cat... I wish there was some way we could fix this for you. It hurts so much to see you in this kind of anguish. But I do have an idea of a way you might possibly be able to point youngest son in the right direction to get some help.


When school resumes in the fall, try to encourage youngest son to share some of his anxiety with his school counselor. Even if YOU can't take him to see somebody, wouldn't his expressing a need for help , to someone who recognized its severity, at LEAST be enough to get the ball rolling??


Meanwhile Sweetpea, keep doing what you're doing. Maybe ex will get tired of being the bad guy, the one who says no and has to face the kids disappointment. Keep looking for that lawyer, and try to take heart in the fact that your gifts aren't returned, and that you're able to speak and spend time with them now, while you weren't before.


(((((((((hugs)))))))))) ~ Nony

 

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Mon, 08-09-2004 - 5:12am

I am sending you giant ((((((((((hugs))))))))) as well, Sadie. Just love on that Sweetfeets as much as possible, call him every night at bedtime .. if it annoys the ex, then ring once and hang up... tell son its your secret I love you sign...


Do you think his statement about your forgetting him could

 

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Mon, 08-09-2004 - 5:14am
Come and vent anytime.. I do it enough!

I am sorry you are having such a hard time seeing your boys. I cant imagine how hard that must be for you. I really really hope that it all works out in the end.


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Mon, 08-09-2004 - 7:43am

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I am so sorry for all you go through with ex. I can't imagine how hard it must be to not be able to see your boys anytime you want. I am so happy for you though at the progress that has been made thus far, ay least in being able to talk to them and send them presents and such. I'm sorry to hear of your youngest son's anxiety issues and sleep troubles, I completely agree with Nony's idea of getting him to talk with a school counselor once school resumes. I think about you and your boys a lot and am sending lots and lots of good thoughts and soothing angels to all of you. I am glad that you have bestest friend there to help you.


(((((((((((Big Hugs))))))))))))


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Mon, 08-09-2004 - 7:47am

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What a tough time you are going through. I am so sorry that things are in such a bad way right now. I'm glad that you got to see sweetfeets for a little while but I'm sorry that you ended up feeling so sad over it. I'm sure he knows you haven't forgotten him, its probably more like Nony said ~ that he worries that you might. Sending lots of positive thoughts and big love that way for you both.


((((((((((((((Big Hugs))))))))))))))


~C

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Mon, 08-09-2004 - 8:53am

Oh Cat, I'm so sorry.

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