when & how to tell daughter
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when & how to tell daughter
| Mon, 08-09-2004 - 11:20pm |
long story short....married twice, divorced twice, first time lesbian relationship at 35 and loving life. problem...i have a 14 year old daughter that will need to know about my gf and me pretty soon (i think it should be soon, but maybe someone here will tell me something different) my gf is planning on moving in with us. i also have a 2 year old son, but with him its different because he will grow up with her. anyway, i have never been so happy and fulfilled in my life. not only am i emotionally stable now, i am having the best sex life, EVER. talk about losing out all those years!
anyway, i need some advise on how and when and what to tell my daughter. she's not stupid and my gf spends most nights at my house. i told my daughter thats it just like when one of her friends sleeps over, but she knows my gf is gay.
my whole other family already knows (mother, brother, cousins) but my daughter is the most important one to me. i came out to them within the first 3 months of my relationship and they welcomed my gf with open arms, no judgements.
thanks for any help girls!

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Hi Xtine and Welcome to Lesbian Life.
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Well I have a 13 year old son and in a similar boat.
*hugs ~ Caly
Hi xtine and welcome to the board. I agree with what everyone else has said, its time to tell your daughter and chances are you won't have to tell her much. She has probably already put the pieces together but just doesn't know how to come to you with them. Good luck, I hope it all goes well. Come back when you can and keep us posted on how it goes.
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You need to tell your daughter, NOW! She is not as naieve as you may think. They notice changes you may not even be aware of. When I told my oldest she pretty much had already figured it out. My 13 year old was a little bit more surprised. She knew I had been spending quite a bit of time with my "friend" and also had told me on several occasions how happy I seemed. It made it easier to tell her because the changes in me were so great and it was all a direct result of my new relationship so I was able to show her the positive side if it all. My 5 year old thinks of her as another mother.
They have handled it all remarkable well. My partner moved in mid June. We have settled into a routine. It won't be all peaches and cream when she moves in but if you learn to respect each other space and feelings it should go pretty smoothly.
Feel free to e-mail if you want to. I would love to compare notes with some people in the same situation.
Good Luck..........
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