when & how to tell daughter
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when & how to tell daughter
| Mon, 08-09-2004 - 11:20pm |
long story short....married twice, divorced twice, first time lesbian relationship at 35 and loving life. problem...i have a 14 year old daughter that will need to know about my gf and me pretty soon (i think it should be soon, but maybe someone here will tell me something different) my gf is planning on moving in with us. i also have a 2 year old son, but with him its different because he will grow up with her. anyway, i have never been so happy and fulfilled in my life. not only am i emotionally stable now, i am having the best sex life, EVER. talk about losing out all those years!
anyway, i need some advise on how and when and what to tell my daughter. she's not stupid and my gf spends most nights at my house. i told my daughter thats it just like when one of her friends sleeps over, but she knows my gf is gay.
my whole other family already knows (mother, brother, cousins) but my daughter is the most important one to me. i came out to them within the first 3 months of my relationship and they welcomed my gf with open arms, no judgements.
thanks for any help girls!

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Honesty is always best... kids are perceptive, and they know long before we say.
Best wishes!
have you observed your daughter to be more interested in what you're doing now than usual?
have she asked any out of the ordinary questions to you?
have she asked any family members about you or you and your g/f?
do you think you're daughter is interested in your life?
do you think she will be receptive to your frank talk?
do you know what you want to say to her if she tells you she doesn't want to hear it?
do you know what you want to say if she says why didn't you tell her earlier?
whether you decide to tell her now or later, you might want to give her a big hug and tell her you love her. Maybe that will give you some courage to sit her down and talk with her. *S*
Good luck. *S*
Hey Xtine!
CL-Nursepam2000 aka
Just a bit of clarification from me personally as far as semantics go..
I didnt "turn" gay... I have never been straight. I just finally chose to live the life I was meant to live.
*hugs ~ Caly
Please do come back and let us know how it goes. This is a hard, but so very important, conversation to have. I hope you'll come back with other questions and concerns, or even just to come and hang out too. We would love to get to know you better.
Hugs!
~C
I can understand a little of what you are going through.
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