Annulled - unwillingly

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Registered: 04-29-2003
Annulled - unwillingly
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Thu, 08-12-2004 - 10:48pm
My head is swimming, I feel close to fainting, my heart is pounding and my tears keep flowing.

Traf and I have been annulled by the courts of California. They say if gay marriage is ever legalized, we're free to file again, and go through another ceremony.

I can't seem to get anyone to even look at the book I've written about Traf, and her childhood growing up gay in the Azores. I got my 47th rejection notice today.

Sometimes it sooooo sucks to be gay. And today is one of those times.

on the upside - some oddball on EBay will probably be willing to pay me good money for the useless piece of paper I have framed - my marriage certificate.

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Registered: 04-29-2003
Fri, 08-13-2004 - 9:23am
{{{{{{{{Thank you Sadie}}}}}}}}}}}

If I ever get it published - you're promised a free copy!

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Registered: 04-29-2003
Fri, 08-13-2004 - 9:24am
{{{{{{{{{{Courtney}}}}}}}}}}

and btw - nice to meet you.

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Registered: 04-29-2003
Fri, 08-13-2004 - 9:25am
{{{{{{{{Thanks Ting}}}}}}}}}}}}
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Registered: 04-29-2003
Fri, 08-13-2004 - 9:32am
{{{{{{{Thanks Caly}}}}}}}}}

And no - I have visited the writing boards a long time back - but now iVillage has made it so unwieldy for those of us who can't afford membership to move around - well I save my visits for Lesbian Life, then hurry to a spybot program to debug my computer.

I didn't know anything when I started out. I'd never heard of a query letter, or a proposal package. I read a lot of books to figure those things out.

I believe I'm on my 47th rejection because I'm looking for an agent to represent me. I think most of them are uninterested in associating with an out lesbian, unless they have star status. Well, I've got mote status.

I'm now going to start sending my proposal package to actual publishers - such as Alyson Press, and Bella Books. I had hoped to publish mainstream - kind of a "Whale Rider" meets "Tom Sawyer" in "Cannery Row" book. But I guess I'd better dive into the GLBT presses and hope against hope that someone/anyone will be interested.

Thanks for your support.

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Registered: 12-16-2003
Fri, 08-13-2004 - 9:38am

Oh Genta, this just breaks my heart.

Kim
Check out my

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Fri, 08-13-2004 - 9:40am

I'm thinking I just pulled a number out of my head because it's about that random.

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Registered: 10-08-2003
Fri, 08-13-2004 - 4:34pm

You're quite welcome! Nice to meet you too ~ I hope we'll see more of you.


Hugs!


~C

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 08-13-2004 - 10:46pm
Like all, I am gathering because I have not read any of the attachment, I am hugging the two of you very closely; I could not imagine going thru the happiness of getting married to have it ripped away in one day. IMO this is wrong. Freedom of religion and such should not be torn apart by the gov't. We are living in the land of the free, are we not? Hoping for happiness and freedom for u both on your journey.
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Registered: 06-24-2003
Fri, 08-13-2004 - 11:19pm
(((((Genta and traf)))))

I am sorry that they have annuled the marriages of so many

people.

I hope that you will keep your certificate as a remembrance

and peice of history for our cultural hope for the future.

I believe that you are still married in your hearts but,

I know that does not help with legalities and etc.

I believe that one day mariage will be legal for same sex

couples.

I think that the marriage certificates and annulments will

be a great peice of our history for our future glbt people to

have to remind them of the struggles that came before them and they will

hopefully not take their marriages for granted.

As for your book, have you tried selling it over seas? I know Denmark

is a country where gay marriage is legal.

Best wishes to you and traf.

Laurie
Laurie

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http://homepage.mac.com/lauriedav/PhotoAlbum1.html http://hometown.aol.com/didoangst/myhomepage/photo.html
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Registered: 10-01-2003
Sat, 08-14-2004 - 4:12am

Oh Genta, I am so sorry for the pain you must be feeling. While the annullment sounds like another case of 'one step forward, two steps back' for gays everywhere, please don't take it as a complete loss. I sincerely doubt the world can shut us out forever.


Keep your marriage certificate, hon... and the rejection slips. Let them fuel in you the fighting attitude that says,' I don't care what you say, these things HAVE

 

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