Update on the saga of my life!!!!!

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Update on the saga of my life!!!!!
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Tue, 08-17-2004 - 11:09am
Hi ladies, I have been quite on the board and letting my Lori do all the talking. (thanks baby) About 2 years ago my Doctor told me I had no tear ducts and I will have to use drops every day. Wellll I have proved him wrong!!!!! I have been crying up a storm. My 2 youngest have been spending the summer at their dads, about an hour away. They both left here angry,both thinking life at their dads will be chore free, money will come easier......plus I moved into a 45 unit apartment building. Their dad has a new house. I dont want it to seem as if Tom and Jenn are monsters, they are not.I take blame for the way thet where raised....I over did it on the giving to then, to make up for their father's verbal abuse. Anyway they where to come home the 26th of this mth.......There not, they are staying and going to school there. Its feels like for the past 19 years I have been talking a 'mom test' and I just failed. They are coming over this afternoon so we can work out the details, and I want to make sure this is what thet really want. I love them both sooooo much. Jenn ( my 14 year old) called me last might, to ask if she can stay for a week when they come. We had a nice talk on the phone, I even got an ' I love you" from her. When asked why she wants to visit( it seems wrong to me that children should visit their mom!!) she wants to go back-to-school shopping, cus her dad is 'cheap' and wont buy her the things she really wants.I am still soooooo mixed up in my head!!! So many ppl have told me, Sandy, this is your year, you can put all yourself in school, live for you for the first time in your life.Without my children...... do I have a life.Talk soon my freinds, warm and toasty in your thoughts, Sandy

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Tue, 08-17-2004 - 11:18am

As hard as it is Sandy, your friends are right.

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Registered: 10-08-2003
Tue, 08-17-2004 - 11:28am

((((((((((Sandy)))))))))) I think Pam and your friends are all right. This is your year. Time to do for you. Its not wrong or selfish or anything bad, you've earned this time. Enjoy visits with the kids and phone calls and everything else, but at the same time, enjoy this *me* time that you've finally gotten.


Big hugs!


~C

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Registered: 04-13-2002
Tue, 08-17-2004 - 12:16pm

Hi Pam,


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Tue, 08-17-2004 - 1:14pm
For what it's worth...My son also left to live with the father he supposedly didnt like to be around. Lise and I were too tough, we werent fair....things had changed too much. He was back on our doorstep 9 months later....hmmm 9 months...a re-birth? The time he was away was a big rebuilding for me and Lise and a wonderful thing as much as it hurt to be 'rejected'...thats not to say there arent bumps in the road now that he is home...but he IS home and there is a new respect that came home with him.

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Registered: 09-29-2003
Tue, 08-17-2004 - 1:39pm
Ahhhhh (((((Sandy))))) I have no advice to offer just a great big ***Sigh*** as I have my own Saga going on here and I am still not sure what the heck I'm doing..their doing.. or what if anything is happening..
I take a few steps forward and way to many back, but I keep hopeing..and trying as much as I am let in too..
Good Luck wishes with your Saga Hon(((((((Hugs)))))))"CAT"

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Tue, 08-17-2004 - 9:58pm

(((((((Lori)))))))

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Registered: 04-13-2002
Tue, 08-17-2004 - 11:39pm

Dear Pam....


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Registered: 03-19-2003
Wed, 08-18-2004 - 12:00am

(((((Lori)))))

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Registered: 04-13-2002
Wed, 08-18-2004 - 1:40pm

Hey Pam,


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Registered: 03-19-2003
Wed, 08-18-2004 - 10:04pm

(((((Lori)))))


This too shall pass.

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