I am alone,

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Registered: 03-25-2003
I am alone,
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Tue, 08-31-2004 - 11:37pm
A few hours ago,my children left to live with my ex and his gf. I move into a new townhouse in the morning( late afternoon) and I start school in 20 short days. The pain I felt as an abused child and young adult is not even in the same ball-park as to how I am feeling tonight. Their rooms are empty, their fav books and tid-bits to make a room "home' is no longer under my roof.I must make my new home without them. No, I take that back, it will never be home, but just a mere building.

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Registered: 06-24-2003
Tue, 08-31-2004 - 11:48pm
Hey now, I am sure there is nothing I can say to make you feel any better. I have never had any children and I cannot imagine what you must be feeling.

I will be thinking of you and hoping that one day you will adjust to all of this. I just want you to know that I am hearing your pain, I just do not have any experience to know what to say.

I will leave you with a great big (((((hug))))).

Take care of yourself,

Laurie
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Registered: 04-15-2004
Wed, 09-01-2004 - 12:01am

Huge hugs are coming at you hunny. I know how alone feels, but you know ... you aren't. You have friends that love you, I know that doesn't compare to the kids, but we are right here for you. I know these beautiful ladies have been here a lot for me, there is more love here than anyplace else I have gone .


(((((((((((((( Peaceful hugs & love )))))))))))


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Registered: 02-15-2004
Wed, 09-01-2004 - 12:04am
OH, I feel your pain. I don't know the circumstances under which they moved but I am so, so sorry. I read your profile and all I can say is to try and focus on you for the first time in years. Count the blessings in your life then focus on them. Are you healthy? Do you have a partner? Focus all your energy on things that are good. It might help to write them all letters or gather their favorite snacks and mail them a care package. Maybe if you continue to do little things for them it will fulfill your need to mother them and make you feel more involved in their lives. How far away did they go, can you see them regularly? Well, I feel for you my friend, I hope you are ok. I am sure you will be, the days will get easier I'm sure... Sandra

Sandr

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Wed, 09-01-2004 - 12:34am

I know it hurts Sandy but you are still their mom, you will always be their mom, and they know that.


Little by little you will find a way to make your new house a home.

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Registered: 10-08-2003
Wed, 09-01-2004 - 7:12am

(((((((((((((Sandy))))))))))))))


I know that it has got to be very difficult right now and I really can't even imagine how tough it must be for you. I'm sending lots of good wishes and positive thoughts your way.


(((((((((Big Hugs))))))))))


~C

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Registered: 09-29-2003
Wed, 09-01-2004 - 9:39am
((((((Hugs Sandy)))))) I know and feel your pain probably in a different way but I feel it Hon.. I do think that the other's have given you wonderful thoughts of things to do for you as well as your (babies)cause to us Mom's that's what they really always are in our hearts. We see them grow and want so much for them to grow as individuals with their own minds and beliefs and hard as that can be we still have to let go and love and watch..That is what yours have done Hon.. Not left you in their hearts ,but just physically to explore different avenues perhaps even for reasons unknown to them yet.. Further down the road they most likely will spot something in what they are doing.. living ..or becoming that will let them be aware of who they are and where they began and believe in your heart they Love their Mom.. I know that can be, because I know my boys love me.. They just don't express it in all the ways some childen do, but they haven't lived as some children do..My youngest started High School today and I know he was nervous and carrying some anxiety with him, anxiety that last year caused him many downfalls ,and it hurt so much to not be there for him on his first day back and into a new realm for him, but I called him last night to give him positive thoughts and ideas to get him through,and

 C  >^. A .

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Wed, 09-01-2004 - 10:04am

Hi Sandralea,


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Registered: 04-13-2002
Wed, 09-01-2004 - 10:10am

Thanks for your kind words of support for my baby, dear Cat! I have to admit it was kinda odd reading this thread and not seeing us mentioned as a couple--lol--although I KNOW that this is about HER loss right now and HER pain which it needs to be. It's just that when she writes, she usually mentions me and vice versa. Not seeing us "coupled" throughout the thread was oddly unsettling. Don't get me wrong--I DO realize we are individuals first and we bring that individuality into our relationship and that is what makes it special---but I actually found myself missing the "us" part of the message she wrote! LOL! It's still there though!


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Registered: 06-24-2003
Wed, 09-01-2004 - 11:34am
Oh Lori, I soooo did not mean to uncouple you. I know how that feels from other experiences in my life. I should have been more attentive when posting. You are a very important part of Sandy's life.

I just did not even know how to comfort her but felt so sad for what she is going through.

I know that it affects you very much as well from reading your posts. I hope you won't feel as if my not mentioning you in my post meant that I did not think of you as partners.

Hugs,

Laurie
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Registered: 02-15-2004
Wed, 09-01-2004 - 11:57am
Thank God she has you, I am relieved! I am so sorry I didn't know, I haven't been posting here long and can't keep everyone straight. When I read her post I just had to offer my support. I didn't mean to "ignore" your importance in her life, I hope I didn't offend you, Sandra

Sandr

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