Oh help, please?????

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Oh help, please?????
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Mon, 09-06-2004 - 3:12am
~sigh. I'm lost, once again?

Well, the last time I posted about B, I believe I confirmed that we were dating casually. And that's what it's been for the last couple of weeks. I guess the one thing that attracts me to her the most is that she has no baggage. Unlike myself, she is young, vibrant, carefree...she's a breath of fresh air everytime I'm around her. I feel that I am a weight that brings her down - and I don't want to do that. All I really desire is a friendship with her, but I know that's not what she wants. Each time I've tried to bring this up, and my reasons behind my feelings, I end up feeling worse than I did before. Why the hell did I have to run into her at the store that day?!?!? Both of us could be resuming our normal lives today had it not been for that chance encounter. I want her to be happy, but I know it'll never be with me. Question is... How on earth do I convince her of that? *buries her head in the sand* My heart is sinking again...

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Mon, 09-06-2004 - 7:30pm
Thanks (((((rayeellen))))) I think I'm going to start calling you nelle from here on since I've seen others doing that and it's easier to type.

>>>Talking to her about it if you are uncertain would be unwise.<<< very wise words hun. Thankyou for that clarity.

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Mon, 09-06-2004 - 7:33pm
Thankyou Robin many tight (((((hugs))))) back atcha. Hope you're feeling better.

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Mon, 09-06-2004 - 7:39pm
>>>The question is "What does Sadie really want?"<<< I don't know I don't know I don't know!!!!!whaaaaaaaaa. I do know that I don't want to lose her from my life, but that also doesn't mean I want what she wants and I'm scared that if I break off what we have now, that's exactly what will happen...nelle really hit it on the nail I think, not discussing things any further until I do know what I want. You are such wise, loving women and I am greatful to all of you over these past (am I going on 3 years now? I forget) few years.

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Mon, 09-06-2004 - 7:46pm
>>>It sounds to me as if you are scared. I mean not once in your post did I read "I am not attracted to her at all" or "I can't see myself ever being able to love her--she's not my type" etc.<<< Bingo. I am so glad you responded to this Lori, reading about your ups and downs with sandy over the past two years, I know you have a good idea where I'm comming from even if the situations are not exact...I hope y'all are well and getting through everything that's going on now. I haven't really had time to keep up with the board lately but I did see the post about the kids and all. Sending both of you my warmest thoughts and giant ((((((hugs))))))).

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Registered: 03-24-2003
Mon, 09-06-2004 - 7:52pm
nelle works! That evolved from my frequently using my name backwards, that being nelle eyar, and the eyar was dropped, lest I be confused with a certain donkey in Winnie the Pooh ;-)
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Mon, 09-06-2004 - 9:20pm

Ya know, Court makes me laugh.

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Mon, 09-06-2004 - 9:37pm

>I thought she was crazy to be attracted to a dried up old depression-plagued 43-year-old like me,


I think you're pretty juicy lookin' myself.

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Mon, 09-06-2004 - 9:39pm

I think it's been at least 3 years kidlet.

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Registered: 12-16-2003
Mon, 09-06-2004 - 9:59pm

Pammie, you are not old.

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Mon, 09-06-2004 - 10:17pm

rofl!