Oh help, please?????

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Oh help, please?????
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Mon, 09-06-2004 - 3:12am
~sigh. I'm lost, once again?

Well, the last time I posted about B, I believe I confirmed that we were dating casually. And that's what it's been for the last couple of weeks. I guess the one thing that attracts me to her the most is that she has no baggage. Unlike myself, she is young, vibrant, carefree...she's a breath of fresh air everytime I'm around her. I feel that I am a weight that brings her down - and I don't want to do that. All I really desire is a friendship with her, but I know that's not what she wants. Each time I've tried to bring this up, and my reasons behind my feelings, I end up feeling worse than I did before. Why the hell did I have to run into her at the store that day?!?!? Both of us could be resuming our normal lives today had it not been for that chance encounter. I want her to be happy, but I know it'll never be with me. Question is... How on earth do I convince her of that? *buries her head in the sand* My heart is sinking again...

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Mon, 09-06-2004 - 10:31pm

She said we'd kill each other?

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Mon, 09-06-2004 - 10:51pm
>By dying of scromping-induced simultaneous heart attacks?< Hey, that's not a bad way to go.

>(and not that either). What are you thinking?< I have noooooo idea. heh heh.




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Mon, 09-06-2004 - 11:35pm

Well, if you don't know, I ain't sayin'.

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Tue, 09-07-2004 - 12:05am

What a way to go Brows

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Tue, 09-07-2004 - 8:38am

"Well, if you don't know, I ain't sayin'.

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Tue, 09-07-2004 - 8:58am

"Well, if you don't know, I ain't sayin'.

Kim
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Tue, 09-07-2004 - 9:47am

roflmao!


It's all a matter of perspective Kimmie ;^)


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Tue, 09-07-2004 - 4:11pm

I'm glad my words made some sense to you...

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Wed, 09-08-2004 - 1:58am
Sadie,

My thoughts?In this post ,well one down the line,you mentioned how you had such a bad day and she made you forget you had ,through a phone conversation???Need I say more???lol....If you really had feelings for someone and they were trying to convince you they had much baggage and you would be better off elsewhere ...would you just walk away?Would your feelings go away?

The whole time I was with Chasity.....I was knowing that being with a married woman was well not really going by what I believed in morally....Once and awhile I would be like man this would be so much easier with a single person ,or someone without two daughters....But man there is no way I would take any of that back....I always describe it as THE BEST and sometimes the worst thing I ever went through.

I too think things do happen for a reason...and well sometimes opposites are good...B is an adult,ok a young adult ...maybe she wants to be with you even if things have changed over the years and you each have had your own problems.....maybe you can help each other....and maybe all she needs is to know she makes you laugh...I love making people laugh and making people happy...maybe she is the same in that aspect.

I would say enjoy the ride,life is a journey and you only make it once...you deserve a laugh now and then,you deserve someone who makes you smile....we all do.....

Wishing you both the best,JO
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Wed, 09-08-2004 - 3:01am
Hey Jo. >If you really had feelings for someone and they were trying to convince you they had much baggage and you would be better off elsewhere ...would you just walk away?Would your feelings go away?<...ummmmm, no. Touche I guess (kind of tired as I'm writing this so excuse the grammar).

Yeah, B is total opposite of me, but I embrace her unconditionally. I know there's a reason she came back into my life, just don't know why yet. It's kind of funny, I posted this thread seeking guiadance - a way to let her go...and here I find everyone saying the complete opposite of what I expected. I could almost see B, hugging each of you for supporting her while I sit in the corner with my head in my hands thinking "Great, what now?". So, guess I'll just enjoy this ride while it lasts! Wishing you the best as well hun. xo.

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