How many of you . . .

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How many of you . . .
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Fri, 09-10-2004 - 2:51pm
When I fell in love with gf and decided that I'm a lesbian, I thought that I was the only straight woman in the world who fell in love with a woman and out of love with all men practically overnight. Obviously I am wrong about this, because I have found all of you . . .

Since I'm new here and don't know all of your stories, I was just curious how many of you were in heterosexual relationships when you discovered you wanted to be with women? Many of you have advised me about dh and my upcoming divorce so I am assuming that it's quite a few of you. I am just curious as to how widespread this (wonderful,) epidemic is?

Scarlet :)

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Fri, 09-10-2004 - 8:15pm
I don't know if every woman dreams about being with other women. I read a statistic once in a psychology book that said no, but who knows. The people surveyed need to be honest for accurate results. I do think Angelina Jolie has many many fans, gay and straight. I liked her until I saw her kiss her brother inappropriately....yuck!

As for markers in the road, I ignored mine too, what a waste of time. I spent my whole life in denial with the exception of a little thing I had with a girl in high school, and then again with one of my sisters friends. Oh well, can't turn back the clock can we?

Hey Scarlet, we are going to be ok, right?

Sandra

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Fri, 09-10-2004 - 10:39pm
My girls are 9, 7, and 5. What I've read says that if they find out a parent has "changed sexual orientation," it's easier on them if it happens prior to their own sexual maturity (ie. puberty.) I'm sure that they will be okay with it eventually, when I tell them, which isn't going to be until after my divorce. The thing that will be sticky is that my gf's kids are friends with my kids. I don't know how they will all be with it.

Scarlet

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Fri, 09-10-2004 - 10:49pm
Yes Sandra, we are going to be okay.

I truly believe that sometimes the universe (or God, or whatever you want to call it,) will whisper to us to guide us.

If we don't listen, she will talk a little louder.

If we still don't listen, she will talk even louder.

If we still dont' listen, she will start to yell.

And if we still don't listen, she will throw a rock at our head, (or send the love of our life to us that happens to be a woman and we can't resist or stop our overpowering emotions, desires, or actions . . .)

Following our hearts is really the only "reasonable" thing to do in life. It is really, really, hard knowling how much some of our choices hurt other people, but ultimately we are going to be at the end of our lives someday. I know that I want to look back at my life and not think about all of the time that I wasted, all of the happiness that I missed out on, and all of the experiences I didn't experience.

Yes, we are going to be okay. Wake up every day and tell yourself that, because in order for it to happen, you must first create it in yourself.

Love and hugs,

Scarlet

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Fri, 09-10-2004 - 11:09pm

Very interesting thread you have generated here Scarlet.

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Fri, 09-10-2004 - 11:14pm
Scarletter,

I am also amazed of how many people have been in a heterasexual relationship on this board. And I too am one also. Was married for 25 yrs to a male and did not enjoy any of it. This is what was set into our minds growing up. Marry a male who will take care of you. Again, I too have found that females are so much more luving, compatable and true to their words more so than males. To this day, I still wonder where the time flies when making luv with a woman. Seems like a few minutes but in reality it is a few hours. NursePam, have not heard from u. LOL

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Sat, 09-11-2004 - 5:08am

Count me in too. Married to him for 17 yrs and lived with him for 3 yrs prior to that.


My sister used to think it odd that he was the only man I'd ever slept with. LOL,

 

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Mon, 09-13-2004 - 6:57am
hey you two, could i join in? scarlet, i think you're right on the fact that if you choose to tune out what you have become and what you now need, the Universe will whack you on the head really hard on account of being fed up hinting-- there's a huge bump at the back of my head the size of Texas, lol. i feel REALLY bad leaving my boyfriend but it's time. Yeh, as long as we acknowledge what we need as opposed to what we want/prefer things to be to be safe. hmmm... that's it. :-))

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Mon, 09-13-2004 - 10:43am
I was in a het relationship - based on outward appearance only. In the summer of 2002, we were at a Melissa Etheridge concert at the Tweeter Center. As we walked around before the show, my ex remarked on how "there are like 6 straight couples here." I laughed, which was apparently annoying, and led her to add "yeah, I know... we aren't one of them."

Exactly.

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Mon, 09-13-2004 - 10:47am
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Mon, 09-13-2004 - 1:00pm
Hi,



Congratulations on finding your sexuality. Have a good day.