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Losing it all
| Tue, 09-14-2004 - 9:04am |
Well I think I have finally hit rock bottom. Jen moved out the other day because my daughter and her could not get along. I take that back, my daughter would not get along. Then yesterday my daughter springs it on me that she is going to live with her father. After 15 years of devotion and unconditional love, this is the love I get in return. Words cannot express the pain in my heart. I had my daughter when I was 19, raised her alone until she was 4, met my husband and he adopted her when she was 5. She is going to stay with him. He is never even home, she will not be ok. I don't know where I am going to go or what I am going to do. I don't even remember who I was before I had her, she is my whole identity. I gave up Jen, my only happiness, and lost everything and everyone else too. I don't know what I expect you all to say I just needed to tell someone. I better go figure out where to go from here. I figure I have 2 choices, I can live or die. I created my destiny, so I guess I had this coming. Sandra

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(((((((((((Sandra))))))))))) I am so, so sorry, and please don't think this is all your fault. You found your happiness in Jen, and I really hope you two can salvage things. I know it's all incredibly painful now but in time I'm sure things will settle down and you can figure out a way to fit everything back into your life. Please hang in there and know that we are all here for you.
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I am so sorry it has come to this.
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I am so sorry.
I think this is wrong of your daughter. My younger sister used this form of punishment on our Mom when she divorced our Dad and started to date. We were in highschool then.
She finally came to her senses, but it took a few years.
I'll say what you do not want to say. I think DD is being very selfish. She is young and feels she has the right to tell you how to live since she is the DD. Wrong!
She should go live with Dad until she can learn that she does not run the adult's life. When did she last pay the bills?
Sounds to me like she needs time away to deal with things in her way and maybe it is best for both of you.
I hate to sound so harsh.
I think you should try to salvage things with Jen. Now you two have time to really have some privacy.
I think DD will come around in time. (When she wants money perhaps) Ouch! That's cold I know, but I have a problem when kids do not allow their parents to be human.
My sister, during her "I'll show you" phase towards my mom made everyone miserable.
Tell her you love her no matter what or how long she needs to punish you and that your door is always open if she decides she would like to make up.
I hope it all works out for you and do not harm yourself over an emotional teenager. It is a phase they and we all grow out of eventually. (At least most do.)
Hugs,
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Sandra, I have an idea of what you're going through. But try to give the relationship with Jen another go. As we've suggested before, age shouldn't be a factor if you love someone and want to be with them. Of course, you should spend some time with yourself to get to know yourself. I know how it feels to have your parent(s) change the rules on you and not give you forwarning. But, understand, You are the parent, not your daughter.
Well, that was just my two cents,
Mulitple Hugs.
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